Open Bar Poll on CNN

MsLaura31

Have y'all seen this? I thought some knot boards were harsh, but WOW...

http://eatocracy.cnn.com/2010/07/30/lunchtime-poll-weddings-and-open-bars/?hpt=C2

I'm not exactly sure what we're supposed to take away from it all.

cfibelkorn

This is a debate that will go on FOREVER.......

Everyone will always have an opinion and both sides have valid points. I think the best thing to do is just do whatever you want...stop caring about etiquette or what other people (who you dont even know on these online boards) think. You know your crowd and their expectations as a guest, you know if you have a lot of OOT guests or whatever your situation is that may help determine to have an open bar, beer and wine bar or cash bar......

Why do people care so much about what other people do....b/c TRUST ME we all are etiquette flawed!

And thats my 0.02

sparklingdiamond

I totally agree!  There are always people that will be ok with cash bars and always people that won't be ok with it.  I do think that those people in that article that were saying they wouldn't ever go to a wedding without alcohol were a little rude.  I think you can survive without it for one night....they don't seem to care about their friends/family very much.  Just my opinion.

cfibelkorn

Well people "say" that on internet forums...but in real life they could be someone completely different (they probably are)

People are always a little ruder when you are typing to someone halfway across the US versus if they were having a face to face chat about it

sparklingdiamond

That's true!  I brought this article up to my FI last night and he was like "Weddings are boring...I wouldn't want to go without alcohol."  I told him I wouldn't mind and he was like "well you're a girl...".  What is that supposed to mean? :-p  I know he was just teasing though.

I also thought that comment where the person was calling people without alcohol or with open bars cheap and saying they are glad those people aren't their friends was funny.

mandaroo7

Oh goodness, I read some of this last night and couldn't believe it.  Why are people so harsh, I am glad you ladies on here are very nice!  My opinion... do whatever you think is best for your wedding. 

Tiffany618

I tend to agree with you ladies.

I think having a bar at an evening wedding is an absolute necessity...and we fortunately were able to have a full open bar (definitely not for lack of cutting out other things, though). 

I'd rather see a cash bar than no bar at all though.  No bar at all = I'm thrilled to death to see you get married...but I'm probably leaving after the cake is served. 

NMac2010

I agree this debate will always have people on both sides.

But, I went to a wedding last summer and they didn't have alcohol at all, and it was pretty lame.

I am with your FI, Sparkling, I think weddings are boring to begin with *gasp, I'm a girl and I'm saying this*, so I like to have a few drinks to liven things up. Sue me!

sparklingdiamond

Haha no I totally understand that!  I enjoy being able to have drinks as well.  But if it is someone that means a lot to me and they can't afford alcohol at the wedding or are really religious and don't have alcohol, I would still go because I care about them.

MsLaura31

I think it's one thing to enjoy a wedding with alcohol more than one without it... but to judge the couple by it is crazy to me.

I agree with Tiffany - don't expect people to want to hang around forever if you can't give them drinks. That doesn't mean an alcohol-free wedding isn't meaningful and beautiful, but I'm probably not going to dance the night away without a few glasses of champagne.

MissesKB

I look at alcohol like cigarettes. If you have to have it, you need to supply your own. People that don't offer full bars, it's not like they are not offering anything at all to drink. They are just not offering alcoholic drinks. Those people that have to have it should sneak in their own if it is that crucial to them.

Me personally, if I cannot afford to have a full bar, oh, well. I won't go broke over alcohol for nobody. And we do have bbq's and parties all the time at our house. We sometimes provide beer. Most of the time, people bring their own.

NMac2010

I don't think it has to be a full bar, to be enjoyable either. We are just doing an open bar with beer and wine. But I don't think ANYONE will be complaing about free beer and wine only!

Maybe that's just because our friends and family are huge beer drinkers. Or maybe because we don't run with people snobby enough to complain about the TYPE of free alcohol we're giving you. *shrugs*

MsLaura31

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_open-bar-poll-cnn?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:cd82d469-0be3-48b0-ba66-d7002d814994Post:f268cac1-019c-4bf9-9997-b69d6cb41015">Re: Open Bar Poll on CNN</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't think it has to be a full bar, to be enjoyable either. We are just doing an open bar with beer and wine. But I don't think ANYONE will be complaing about free beer and wine only! Maybe that's just because our friends and family are huge beer drinkers. Or maybe because we don't run with people snobby enough to complain about the TYPE of free alcohol we're giving you. *shrugs*
Posted by NMac2010[/QUOTE]

I was thinking this too, until FI's mom gave me a guilt trip at Easter about not serving vodka... I wanted to ask her if she wanted to pay for it, but I held my tounge.