Money Dance?

Vanessa&Tony

I use to never mind the money dance when I went to other people's wedding. I thought it was fun and I always got in line a paid my buck. But now that it's my wedding, I feel like it's tacky. What does everyone else think?

tldh

Tacky.  Tacky.  Tacky. 

A guest should never have to open their wallet at your wedding for anything.

SaraAndrew2010

Very tacky.  Skip it!

Karen's MOH

I've never seen one, so I would think it was weird in a wedding among my circle. But I know in other circles and cultures it's the norm. I say, if you have been to a lot of weddings with one and know it is common among your friends/family, you could do it if you really want to.

I have a friend who is Greek getting married next summer and she said she will do one because it's tradition in her family. I'm actually excited to see one in action.

MLandCJ

I've haven't been to weddings where this has happened, but my mother has.

She get irritated when they do it, and I would too.

This is how I see it:

Thats like having a dinner party and then right before everyone is about to leave or starts enjoying the festivities...you start passing around a pitcher for money.

It just doesn't make sense. I feel that it puts your guest in an awkward situtation. Do they give you money or look cheap while everyone else is joining in?

I say no go

Vanessa&Tony

Yeah, I use to work in the wedding industry and I saw them all the time. It's really not uncommon. And I've actually always enjoyed them, the only time I didn't do the money dance is when I didn't know the groom, otherwise I danced with the bride. I never thought anything about it...but I thought it was so weird when a friend suggested it to me, I was like uh...no!

I was just curious to what you all thought. That's all.

MNVegas

Not for me!

yuengling58

We're doing one. It's very common in our social circle.. complete with polka music.

Judge away

Galaxy8227

It's not common in our circle, I have actually never seen it done, but I find the idea of it very tacky. 

kimp67

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[QUOTE]We're doing one. It's very common in our social circle.. complete with polka music. Judge away :)
Posted by robynann07[/QUOTE]

Ditto!!!!!

Enchanted616

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[QUOTE]We're doing one. It's very common in our social circle.. complete with polka music. Judge away :)
Posted by robynann07[/QUOTE]

Me too.  Besides the polka part.  I think it totally depends on your area.. I have a huge family and go to at least two weddings a year, and I've never been to one without it.  Honestly, its a dollar.  It gets people dancing who might not have otherwise.  It guarantees anyone who wants a minute with the bride and groom privately that they will have it.  I know, I know, people shouldn't have to "pay" to be in your company.. but at weddings with large guest lists, its very hard to ensure that otherwise. And its just plain fun.  I usually tend to agree with the etiquette norms on these boards, but it never occurred to me before reading on here that its tacky.

We will be donating the money to charity, though.  I've never seen anyone do that, but got the idea from these boards, and I really like it.

jemmini6

It's common in my circle (I don't think I've ever been to a wedding where they didn't do one), but I just don't like it, so won't be doing one.  For us, it's never about the money (most people only give $1-$5), it's just getting a one-on-one with the bride or groom.

trix1223

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Money Dance? : Me too.  Besides the polka part.  I think it totally depends on your area.. I have a huge family and go to at least two weddings a year, and I've never been to one without it.  Honestly, its a dollar.  It gets people dancing who might not have otherwise.  <strong>It guarantees anyone who wants a minute with the bride and groom privately that they will have it.  I know, I know, people shouldn't have to "pay" to be in your company.. but at weddings with large guest lists, its very hard to ensure that otherwise. </strong>And its just plain fun.  I usually tend to agree with the etiquette norms on these boards, but it never occurred to me before reading on here that its tacky. We will be donating the money to charity, though.  I've never seen anyone do that, but got the idea from these boards, and I really like it.
Posted by Enchanted616[/QUOTE]

The bolded part makes no sense at all.  If you have time to have a dance for guests so that they can get  "a minute with the bride and groom privately" just have the dance.  Why does money have to enter into the equation?  Answer:  it doesn't.

Announce that  "for the next two songs, the bride and groom will be on the dance floor to share a minute with any guest who would like to dance."  Don't charge for it. 

Vanessa&Tony

And in most cases they pin it to the dress...what do you do if a bill falls!!! Oh wait a minute I must get that! AWKWARD!

kimp67

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[QUOTE]And in most cases they pin it to the dress...what do you do if a bill falls!!! Oh wait a minute I must get that! AWKWARD!
Posted by Vanessa&Tony[/QUOTE]

I've never seen in pinned to the dress.  Around here the MOH dances first & then holds the "bridal dance bag".

yuengling58

I guess I don't get the big deal? Here you take a shot, pay a dollar and dance with the bride. Plus it's $1. That's not even a cup of coffee nowadays, so what's the big deal? I think it's a cute tradition. If you don't like it, don't do it. How is that so complicated? If you're a guest at a wedding that does it and you don't like it, sit it out. Everyone has different tastes.

jennylove810

Do you people seriously think that it's $1?

It's called the "Dollar Dance," but just wait and see how many of your friends and relatives will feel guilted into giving you $5s and $10s, because to them, it will look like you're so strapped for money that you need to resort to this tacky and outdated tradition.

yuengling58

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[QUOTE]Do you people seriously think that it's $1? It's called the "Dollar Dance," but just wait and see how many of your friends and relatives will feel guilted into giving you $5s and $10s, because to them, it will look like you're so strapped for money that you need to resort to this tacky and outdated tradition.
Posted by jennylove810[/QUOTE]

No.. people here actually give $1. It's a fun tradition not like we're strapped for cash.

Vanessa&Tony

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Money Dance? : I've never seen in pinned to the dress.  Around here the MOH dances first & then holds the "bridal dance bag".
Posted by kimp67[/QUOTE]
It was originally done were you pin it to the dress. The fact that people actually have a bag/purse open for peoples money is really something I'm not comfortable with.

yuengling58

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Money Dance? : It was originally done were you pin it to the dress. <strong>The fact that people actually have a bag/purse open for peoples money is really something I'm not comfortable with.</strong>
Posted by Vanessa&Tony[/QUOTE]

Then don't do it.

Just because you have different tastes than someone else doesn't mean one thing is right or wrong.

MyNameIsNot

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Money Dance? : Then don't do it. Just because you have different tastes than someone else doesn't mean one thing is right or wrong.
Posted by robynann07[/QUOTE]

<div>Grubbing for money is not a matter of taste.  </div><div>
</div><div>The only place where it is acceptable to dance in exchange for money is a strip club.</div><div>
</div><div>Turning your wedding into a fundraiser by grubbing for dollars is not a cute tradition.  It is a disgusting display of greed.  </div>

kimp67

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Money Dance? : Grubbing for money is not a matter of taste.   The only place where it is acceptable to dance in exchange for money is a strip club. Turning your wedding into a fundraiser by grubbing for dollars is not a cute tradition.  It is a disgusting display of greed.  
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]

So I guess my Slovakian ancestors were greedy because the tradition started there.  Oh wait, I have to include ALL of my relatives that have had a wedding too.  Guess that's where I get it from!

kimp67

In case anyone is interested here is a link:

http://www.iarelative.com/wedding/pl_mlada.htm

& the song that's playing in the background is the song we greedy people use, except a faster polka version.

jennylove810

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Money Dance? : So I guess my Slovakian ancestors were greedy because the tradition started there.  Oh wait, I have to include ALL of my relatives that have had a wedding too.  Guess that's where I get it from!
Posted by kimp67[/QUOTE]

I think it's safe to say that your ancestors lived in a very different time where a bride and groom didn't necessarily receive checks in cards as wedding gifts.

MNIN is correct.