How soon is too soon to throw a shower?

kcshield

So I have been catching a lot of flak for this so I thought I would bring it to the board! On top of being a Bride I am also a maid of honor …her wedding is before mine so still a maid . She really wants to have her shower in the garden of a local tea shop which I also love!  The only issue is that if we have it at the “traditional” time 1-3months before the wedding it will be the dead of another Midwestern winter…not very conducive to garden parties. We were thinking august or September and her wedding is in April. Is that too far apart? My whole point of view on it is the bride and the person throwing/paying for the party see no problem with it so I think that it is fine. BUT... I have had multiple people (mostly older) look at me like I was holding the shower in a strip club or asking something TOTALLY ridiculous! Is it that crazy to have the shower more then a few months prior to the wedding?

hlq2011

Please use normal, black font.  Pink is way hard to read.

August or September are too early for a shower for an April wedding.  I probably wouldn't attend.

My earliest shower was in March for a June wedding, and I thought that was early but it was because of scheduling conflicts, not just because of the style of party we wanted (it was OOT for me).

SteveandKris

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_soon-soon-throw-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:34Discussion:8a82b289-4504-4450-a2f1-0c3194f998a3Post:f2f34ac1-aa16-4d84-bd39-3232b6126724">Re: How soon is too soon to throw a shower?</a>:
[QUOTE]Please use normal, black font.  Pink is way hard to read. August or September are too early for a shower for an April wedding.  I probably wouldn't attend. My earliest shower was in March for a June wedding, and I thought that was early but it was because of scheduling conflicts, <strong>not just because of the style of party we wanted (it was OOT for me).
</strong>Posted by hlq2011[/QUOTE]

if she wanted a garden party, she probably should've had a July wedding... I also, wouldn't go in August...

kcshield

She is having her wedding on their 5th anniversary so that is why it is in April. Yeah excuse the pink that was a bad idea...lol(kind of new at this). I am a total wedding novice...my wedding will only be the third wedding I have ever been too so any help is appreciated!

hlq2011

Maybe you can still do a garden tea party theme, but indoors?

kcshield

That is a good idea...very "christmas is July"...lol.

futurepivko

make sure she is registered (and not feeling rushed to do so) before planning a shower.

and PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE dont use pink font on here ever again. please and thank you

aimers1525

If you wait and have it clsoer to the wedding could you check to see if any of the fancier hotels in your area/city nearby have high tea? Then you could still have the tea party theme, but it could be indoors. Or maybe a country club/restaurant would help you out w/a tea themed menu, etc.

ks107021

Like PP have said I think that is definitely too soon to have a shower.  Good ideas to still have that theme, but indoors.  It sounds lovely, but way too soon. 

noodle_oo

Wow, no that is WAY too soon.  August would be 8 months before the wedding.  I just don't think that is appropriate.  If she wants a garden themed shower, you need to do it indoors in the appropriate time period.  Or, she can just have a party at the garden place whenever she wants.  Or she should have planned her wedding for the fall.  She just can't have everything you know...

ETA:  not to mention, that early will she have her guest list finalized?  Because she would have to make sure that everyone invited to the shower does get invited to the wedding.  That's one of the many reasons you don't do it that early.  So much can change in 8 months. 

ajroark

I agree that it's too soon, but I like the idea of the indoor garden-themed shower. If you have it in March, that's more towards Spring than Winter

karmellah

i love the theme idea. my shower is next month and i think thatd be pretty cool

kcshield

Thanks for all of the feed back ladies! Like I said TOTAL novice...I have never even been to a shower that I didn't go to with my mom and sat at the kids table...lol. There is so much that goes into the etiquette it is hard to remember...if it makes you ladies feel any better I am getting married in November and my shower is in October...it is going to be Halloween theme (it is our favorite holiday )

Patineuse1124

I definitely wouldn't have it that early and would probably not attend a shower that early.  Plus many people don't use their shower presents until after the wedding because etiquette dictates that if the wedding is called off the gifts must be returned.  8 months is a long time to have boxes piled up.  Just have a garden themed tea party.