Being told to register for more...

ukjenn231

We created two registries, but neither one of them had a lot of things.  Mainly because we already have a home, and don't need too much.  We still wanted to register for the few things we did need or want.  Now my bridal showers are approaching and people are telling us that there isn't enough on the registries and we need to register for more.  

We COULD register for more stuff, but it would be stuff that is extra and we really don't even have enough space in our house to store extra.  We really need a new couch and bed, so we would like gift cards or money to help with these big purchases, but I feel bad saying that.  I also don't want a bunch of gift cards from various places, I would prefer one place so that we could put them all together to make a large purchase.

Suggestions?

Brie2010

I would look around your house and register for upgrades.  Replace your bedding and towels with really nice stuff, get fun appliances you've always wanted like a panini press or something.

People don't want to give money for a shower.  That kind of defeats the purpose. 

anna.oskar

If you do not want any small, physical items you should decline your shower.  Showers or gift giving events and most people will refuse to get you gift cards.

[Deleted User]

I agree with Brie and I will add people will buy you random crap if you don't guide them.  My mom went to my cousin's shower yesterday, there were 70 guests and they had two very small registries.  My mom ended up buying a very nice set of cream sheets because everything was taken.  

You can always register for larger items, people get together and buy more expensive stuff.  

ladybirda

I'm confused?  It looks like you're eloping, but you're having more than one shower?  Gifts usually come from people who have been invited to the wedding.  If I were you I would decline the showers, or limit the guests invited to those who are closest to you, so that acquaintances and coworkers don't feel compelled to buy gifts for a wedding they don't even get to attend. 

MissLeahM

You can put gift cards on registries now. Every place that I have looked into have had that option. I would talk to the places where you have registered. Otherwise, put the big ticket items on there that you want. That way they know what you are going for and can gift you gift cards to go towards that purchase. 

ukjenn231

Sorry for the confusion.    I am have a private destination wedding, but an at home reception as soon as we get back.   My family insisted on having showers b/c they wanted to still do some of the festivities.  I know that people give gifts for showers, I was talking more about for the wedding reception.  I know that this goes against some people's rules or etiquette to have showers or give gifts when no one goes to the wedding, but my family is very laid back and we don't go by the "rules."  

atlcatlover

If you really don't need anything you shouldn't have showers, or you should come up with some sort of themed event, like a stock the bar party or something like that.

We had a very small registry, and really didn't want any showers, but a group of friends insisted so we made it a red wine shower where people brought us bottles of red wine.  It was perfect!!

lorikoke

Hi! I just registered on http://www.hatchmyhouse.com for that very reason! Although I am concerned that it's not an appropriate 'shower' gift. Maybe people will go in together for high-priced items on your registry. I definitely would not register for things you don't want though - because then you may end up taking it back.

jinxed8605

you can register at places like JC Penny and put their furniture on your registries. Some people like to pitch in for bigger gifts together. My aunts on my mom's side generally do that.