AAAAHH FIRST GIFT!!!

aragx6

Italics are also a perfectly acceptable way to show emphasis in writing.

scstar17

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AAAAHH FIRST GIFT!!! : Comments like this will get you nowhere.   I re-read the posts in this thread and no one was attacking you.  PPs just pointed out that you're not supposed to use wedding gifts before your wedding.  You don't have to agree with it or like it, but that's reality.  You also have to keep in mind that other brides-to-be are reading these posts.  So the fact that PPs pointed this out could've been very helpful for someone else.
Posted by lls31[/QUOTE]

I'm curious where you think I wanted to be taken.

There are several other posts on this first page talking about receiving gifts before the wedding.  I said right there that they wanted us to open it early.  No freak out from the negative people needed, I was just excited.  I'm still excited, and happier than ever that my life isn't about flipping out on message boards when I don't think someone follows etiquette.

Viczaesar

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[QUOTE]You think the entire point of this message board is to detail where you think people are wrong?  Rethink the use of the word "literally" and get back to me.  REGARDLESS, I'M STILL HAPPY WITH MY GIFT so the little negative picky broads using false swear words (we're not nine, get over yourself) do not change my happiness.  I feel sorry for your husbands, Jesus Christ.  You must be the type that gets mad when friends succeed in life because it gives you nothing to complain about.
Posted by scstar17[/QUOTE]
You're a nasty piece of work, aren't you?  Why don't you try to type out some "real" swear words and see if TK gods will let it on through.  Maybe they will, since you're obviously a special snowflake.

lauraanne9

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AAAAHH FIRST GIFT!!! : Ah yes, I did not explain in great enough detail.  She said for us to open AND USE the gift ASAP.  She wanted us to be happy with the items right away.  Advice from people that have already gone through the wedding is one thing, <strong>but just slamming outdated etiquette rules in the face of a stranger is not advice.</strong>
Posted by scstar17[/QUOTE]

<div>First of all, they are NOT outdated.  I don't care if you are in the now, 100 years from now or 100 years in the past, if someone gives you a gift for an event that does not take place, you return the gift.  That is the rule.  Has nothing to do with the time period and everything to do with manners.  I agree with the poster who said the only person who has been rude in this is you.  And, honestly, how in the heck can you say that basic courtesy, respect, and decency are outdated?!?</div>

scstar17

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AAAAHH FIRST GIFT!!! : You're a nasty piece of work, aren't you?  Why don't you try to type out some "real" swear words and see if TK gods will let it on through.  Maybe they will, since you're obviously a special snowflake.
Posted by Viczaesar[/QUOTE]

There's no reason to swear when English exists.  There are so many words out there available.  But thank you for the offer.  I am still happy with my new gift, by the way.  I came on here and posted about being happy and the same is still true - I'm sorry if that upsets or effects your life in a negative way.  Don't take message boards too seriously.

scstar17

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_aaaahh-first-gift?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:9fd2b55b-38e7-43d9-bcfc-7062e5a8859fPost:4dd03ef1-dc86-45ab-9e87-feee9fce97f7">Re: AAAAHH FIRST GIFT!!!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AAAAHH FIRST GIFT!!! : First of all, they are NOT outdated.  I don't care if you are in the now, 100 years from now or 100 years in the past, if someone gives you a gift for an event that does not take place, you return the gift.  That is the rule.  Has nothing to do with the time period and everything to do with manners.  I agree with the poster who said the only person who has been rude in this is you.  And, honestly, how in the heck can you say that basic courtesy, respect, and decency are outdated?!?
Posted by lauraanne9[/QUOTE]

I didn't say that returning the gift if the wedding doesn't happen is outdated.  Please show me where I said that.  I will wait for that quote.

I said that not using the gift, when the giver stated to open it now and enjoy now, would be outdated and ridiculous.  If we didn't live together then we'd wait but we have a shared home already. 

I hope that straightened out whatever you think I said from what I actually stated.  The pans cooked wonderfully tonight, by the way.  Cleaned easily too and fit in my cabinet space perfectly!

aragx6

^Uh, you said it in your second post of this thread.

"Ha ha ha, thanks for the etiquette lessons.  If we were following what's proper to the 1800s we wouldn't be sharing a mortgage already either, but we do so we can use the gifts - especially when the giver SAID to open it now.  If we didn't live together yet that would be different but the times, they are a-changin.'  How long have you been married and you're still on theknot.com registry board???"

scstar17

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[QUOTE]^Uh, you said it in your second post of this thread. "Ha ha ha, thanks for the etiquette lessons.  If we were following what's proper to the 1800s we wouldn't be sharing a mortgage already either, but we do so we can use the gifts - especially when the giver SAID to open it now.  If we didn't live together yet that would be different but the times, they are a-changin.'  How long have you been married and you're still on theknot.com registry board???"
Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]

I did not say that returning gifts if the wedding falls through is outdated.  You've just helped in proving my point.  I said not opening/using a gift when it is requested that we do so by the giver is an outdated practice. 

Now that you see you just misunderstood what you read, it's all back to normal yes????

starael

Is it okay to open the gifts as you receive them, send out thank you notes, but refrain from using the gifts until after the wedding?

starael

Is it okay to open the gifts as you receive them, send out thank you notes, but refrain from using the gifts until after the wedding?

scstar17

Whenever you open them, you should send the thank you ASAP.  Waiting to use them obviously varies in opinion.