I had a slew of shower and wedding gifts sent to both my house and my parents' house before my shower. The day of my shower, I received two cards in which the givers had written that they had their gifts shipped to my house. I have yet to receive either of their gifts. My shower was September 9th.
One person told my mother exactly what she had bought me and when she bought it, so when I still hadn't gotten it, I went to BBB, where they looked it up and told me that somehow the gift had been returned to the shipper because of an "invalid address." Without the order number, which of course I don't have, they were unable to give me any more information, just that the gift giver should make sure the shipper either resends the gift or sends it back to BBB so they can issue her a refund. This woman is a friend of my mother's, so my mom is going to let her know. Is there anything else I can do or should be doing? I know I can't write a thank you note for a gift I didn't receive.
The other person is a bit trickier. She wrote in my shower card "Gift to come--or perhaps it already arrived?" leading me to believe she'd had it shipped before the shower. There are two registry items purchased from my registry around the time of the shower that I cannot account for. However, I can't say for certain that those are the items she bought, or if she even bought me something from my registry. If she did buy those items and expected me to have received them, she must think I suck at getting thank you notes out, which I don't want. I don't want to tell her that I never received a gift from her, though, just in case for some reason she wasn't able to give me the gift she'd intended.
Should I wait it out and hope that she checks the order status when she realizes she still hasn't received a thank you note? Or should I warn her that her gift may have suffered the same fate of an "incorrect address" and been returned to the shipper?
Basically, I don't want any of my guests to have spent money on a gift I never received, yet I don't want to make it sound like I'm putting it on them to rectify the situation or like I'm demanding to know where my gift is. I also don't want anyone thinking I received their gift and simply didn't send a thank you note.
What is the right thing to do? Sorry this is so long.
