what should we do with money we receive at our shower?

hillary_marie88

My bridal shower is coming up this weekend, and I know certain guests (my grandmother's siblings, a few of my parents friend) are going to just give us money.  My fiance thinks that we should save any and all money we receive for shower or wedding gifts to pay for our upcoming move; I feel that if it is a shower gift, the gift giver wants us to buy something useful or special that we will keep, not use the money to pay rent or buy gas.  What do you guys think?

aegrish

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[QUOTE]My bridal shower is coming up this weekend, and I know certain guests (my grandmother's siblings, a few of my parents friend) are going to just give us money.  My fiance thinks that we should save any and all money we receive for shower or wedding gifts to pay for our upcoming move; I feel that if it is a shower gift,<strong> the gift giver wants us to buy something useful or special that we will keep,</strong> not use the money to pay rent or buy gas.  What do you guys think?
Posted by hillary_marie88[/QUOTE]

If this was true they would've given you a gift card.  It's cash- spend it as you wish and when you thank them let them know what it's going towards.

MyNameIsNot

Use it for the move, or to buy the things you'll need after the move.  It's kind of dumb to finish your registry now and then have to move all that stuff right away.

GeauxTigers17

I would probably do # 2 unless money was so tight that the move was going to be a problem for us. 

However, I think you can look at the money two ways. The way you are looking at it (was meant to buy a present) or that the money was intended for the two of you to use for your new life together in the way that would help you the most. If that's the move, then use it for that. If you can move and still buy the presents without any financial hurt, go for it. 

Blueyed228

I dont see a problem with using it for the move.  I think the only stipulation with shower gifts (money) is that it is used for something for both of you.  Since both of you are moving, I dont see an issue.

noodle_oo

If they wanted you to buy a registry gift with it, then they would have just bought you a registry gift.  I think people give money because they want to give you the option to use it as you see fit.  If you need the money for the move, I think it would be silly to complete you registry just bc you think that is what the giver wants you to do with it.  You should use the money how you would like to and how you need to.

We received money at our wedding.  We used some of it to buy the things we really wanted off our registry.  The rest we are saving and will either use as needed or to buy new furniture for our house. 

regan117

I think they're giving you money to help you start your lives/home together. Moving cross-country and into a new home is starting your new home together, so I don't see anything wrong with using it for that purpose.

aimers1525

My FI and I received money at our shower and we decided to put it into our account and just wait to decide to use it for after the wedding. I see no problem with chosing to spend it on what you wish.

Polarmunkee

Use it to buy anyhting that you didn't get as a gift and really wanted.  But if there's nothing you need or are dying to have- do what you want.  Personally, I would put some towards the move and use the rest for a trip or something fun that we wouldn't normally spend our own money on.

kalizoomba

I didn't vote because I don't know what's right for you. If we get money, it will go toward whatever we need most at the time. If that's gas in our car, or food, or electricity, we'll pay that. If we have all that stuff, and if there's registry items that we still really want, we'll probably do that. It depends on how tight you are for money, how much you have for your move, and how much you want the things you didn't get on your registry.

kgorman307

I typically give money when I attend a wedding, rather than sending a gift beforehand. I really don't care what the couple uses it for - t's theirs to do as they please with it.

Honestly, we'll probably use shower gifts of money towards our honeymoon as that is the one thing we'd love to have a larger budget for. I would never ask someone to contribute to my honeymoon; however, I feel like if they wanted me to buy a blender with it, they would have bought me the blender on my registry.

ldawg14

Use the money for the move, if you buy things now it's more stuff to haul!

Milsey32

I would think the couple would be responsible enough to use it the way it was intended -- FOR THEM. I wouldn't care if they used it for a trip to the movies (fun!) or a registry gift (like you said, you'd keep it for awhile/forever), or even gas for their move (gas prices are RIDICULOUS). Best of luck! [: