Gifts not on registry

eseney82

We have been getting lots of items that are not on our registries, and although thoughtful, I wont be using any of the those things that we are getting.  Umm...that would be why I didnt register for it!  Anyone else have this problem?

AdeleDazeem

I often give off-registry and pair it with a registry gift.  Some people don't like to go the registry route.  It's a gift - they may spend their money however they want. Thank them appropriately and then do what you wish with the gift.

Some of the off-registry stuff we got is lovely.

LeiselEB

I would get a little annoyed when I had an item on my registry such as a serving platter, and then at my shower 5 people got my servings platters, and not one was the style I registered for. They're all really pretty, but I had hoped to have a serving set that matched my china, and now I have pieces that are lovely, but not at all coordinated with my dishes. 

Either way, I'm always grateful and surprised by people's generosity, but sometimes I do just want to point to the registry

frantastic12

I noticed yesterday that someone bought a saucepan that wasn't on our registry (it showed up on the registry as "requested 0, purchased 1").  I was kinda confused (and just a teeny bit irritated) because we have 5 or 6 pans on our registry, and none of those have been purchased...but someone bought 1 that wasn't on it.  But I know it could have been a mistake, and mostly, I feel bad that someone spent $80 on something that we'll most likely be returning.

I personally would never buy something that wasn't on a registry, but I'm not creative enough to think (or make) of a good non-registry gift to give. I have an aunt who make quilts to give as gifts at every bridal/baby shower she goes to, and they are amazing (and obviously, not on a registry). 

dramaqueen91087

Yeah, I noticed the other day that someone got an apron, which is black, which was not on the registry. I did have a similar, both in color and price, apron on the registry. Why they didn't get that one is beyond me, I think the one on my registry was actually cheeper! I'll probably just return it and buy the one I wanted. See if thats an option for you.

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[QUOTE]I noticed yesterday that someone bought a saucepan that wasn't on our registry (it showed up on the registry as "requested 0, purchased 1").  I was kinda confused (and just a teeny bit irritated) because we have 5 or 6 pans on our registry, and none of those have been purchased...but someone bought 1 that wasn't on it.  But I know it could have been a mistake, and mostly, I feel bad that someone spent $80 on something that we'll most likely be returning. I personally would never buy something that wasn't on a registry, but I'm not creative enough to think (or make) of a good non-registry gift to give. I have an aunt who make quilts to give as gifts at every bridal/baby shower she goes to, and they are amazing (and obviously, not on a registry). 
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This happened to us.... something we DID register for was purchased, and the person also bought a few items for themself... which automatically added them to our registry as "purchased".  So maybe the saucepan isn't even for you!

librababy

I know this will happen to me especially with Fi's family.  Not even really expecting much off the registry anyway.. I did it because my bm told me to. LOL

CassieCA

For my first wedding, we received a lot of gifts off-registry.  Thanked the givers, but took almost all of them back, was really easy to exchange things for something else.  I mean what the heck else do you do with 3 rice cookers and 3 picnic baskets (there wasn't one of either on the registry)?  Spent the first 5 weekends after the honeymoon returning things which was a real pain.  This is why I never buy off-registry anymore for others, I also have the gift sent to the couple, so much easier than figuring out what to do with a bunch of gifts the night of the wedding.

JoanE2012

ha, see this is what I'm afraid of!  It's been recommended by people that I create a small registry in order to help people get the point that we'd prefer CASH.  I can just see the few items on the registry being purchased and then ending up with random teal towels that don't even match our bathroom.  Oh Good God.  I seriously don't want to have the hassle of trying to return things.