Registry advice I wish I hadn't taken seriously.

creativedoubt

Ok, so all the books and magazines tell you that you should register in at least two places.  I understand the rational - of course I wanted my guests to feel like they could purchase something within their budget.  (Actually, to be honest, I was happy to recieve gifts, but I would have preferred to send a note out saying it certainly wasn't an obligation.)

That being said, if you have certain things that you really want to recieve, then don't register in two places.  However, if you want a specific set of dishes, register each plate or bowl or whatever separately.  Yes, you may not get the entire set, but there are registry completion options post-wedding.  But you'll more than likely get what you'd like rather than having that registry site that you only opened because you felt obligated to have two.  (Trust me when I say that, per Murphy's Law, they will all buy you stuff off your half-hearted registry.)

LeiselEB

I don't really understand this advice. I registered at more than one store because I liked the items at more than one store. Why would you register at a second store for things you don't want?

I registered for all my place settings as a set and received them all at a set. It's actually a LOT easier for guests to purchase on complete place setting that to find a plate, bowl, dinner plate, cup, saucer....etc. 

amymaysa

I'm also confused...We have 2 registries b/c we like things at 2 different stores. Not really much of an issue

rlavach

I'm confused too. I registered at 3 stores because they each had something different that I wanted, so I picked the things that I liked. I didn't do any duplicates & I certainly didn't split up items (i.e. do half a place setting at one store & the rest elsewhere). OP, could you clarify?

HobokensFury

I'm glad I'm not the only one that doesn't get it.

hoffse

Sorry OP, but that's your own fault.  You should have registered for things you wanted and not random stuff.  I hope you were gracious when you were opening them, particularly if anybody but your FI saw.

Avion22

We registered at one store (a reasonably-priced national chain). We had no issues whatsoever getting what we wanted, ether as gifts ormaftermthe wedding using our completion discount. We only registered for stuff we wanted, which amounted to maybe 60 items to a wedding for about 80 people.

bellasmomma716

I think what she's meaning is that she wasn't all that concerned with receiving gifts in the first place but felt that she should register since that's what everyone said to do. And yeah it tends to be a good idea to register in 2 places in case one is too pricey or not available to some of the guests.

As far as the china or dish set, I totally get what the OP means. If the whole set with everything you want is going to cost like $300, there's a good chance you probably won't get it unless maybe like Grandma or mom know that's your top desire on the resgistry. Putting the individual pieces on means that you may get 3 plates from cousin Bob, 3 plates from aunt June, 2 teacups from co worker Cindy, etc. Basically you could get the better part of or all the set without it being a big chunk from one person's pocket and whatever you don't get you can pick up after with the discount. If you can register an entire place setting like a plate, bread plate, bowl, cup, saucer, etc as one "item" on the registry, that maybe another compromise to all together or all separate.

I think what happened is that maybe the majority of things she wanted were at store A but she felt she needed to register at store B also and while it's not that she didn't want the stuff from store B, the stuff at store A was just higher on her list and she didn't get much of that.

lls31

I don't get it either.  We registered at 2 different stores and we only registered for items we want/need.