Has anyone else ever been invited to an international or tropical destination wedding and then been sent info for the honeyfund registry? I have never experienced this until now, and it sounds to me like they just want everyone to pay for their wedding and vacation! It sort of pissed me off. We just spent almost $1200 on the flights to go down there, $120 for each of our passports, plus we will have to spend for hotel, transportation, etc, and now they are asking guests to basically just give them cash for their vacation after we are spending a ton of our own money just to get there?! Seems rude to me. In this kind of situation I wasnt even thinking about wedding gifts because we've spent a lot already, but I don't know the "proper eqituette" on gifts for destination weddings anyway.
On top of all that, these two are already "secretly" married and got hitched at the courthouse last month. It isn't a secret to everyone but they did tell some of their friends about it, and said they just wanted to get married quickly here first and then have a tropical wedding in the caribbean next year and invite everyone to that. My issue is that they're going around acting like they're not married (having an engagement party this past wknd, which is also how we found out about this honeymoon registry bc they told people they just set it up), and scheduling a wedding shower, etc.
I wouldn't care if someone got married quickly first for whatever reason and then had a big wedding later on, but when you're telling everyone you're engaged and having an engagement party when you'r ealready married it just seems odd to me. If you do that you shouldnt be having an engagement party in my opinion. What realy offended me I think is that they have been cheap about everything (sent out a Facebook invite for this engagement party, included a link to the honeyfund registry on there, and then on this registry page put things like "buy us dinner at xxx" or "pay for us to go to the spa" as gifts). They didnt even send anyone formal invitations.
Has anybody had experience like this before? I have never seen such a thing so I am not even sure what to say at this point. If you were going to a wedding in the caribbean and paying a lot for travel, etc, would you even get a gift or give a cash gift, or is this honeyfund thing acceptable these days?