Money Tree Ideas For Rustic Wedding

darah04

Im having a rustic/country wedding in June and I'm trying to figure out what I want to do for a money tree or maybe a money bucket? I was thinking a galvanized bucket! We want the money for extra cash for our honeymoon. Anyone have any ideas?? And what saying could you use for the bucket?

jessicabessica

Asking for money in any way is rude.  Money trees/buckets/etc. are particularly rude--guests have gotten dressed up, potentially traveled, likely gotten you a gift, and when they show up to your reception, they are hit up for cash for your vacation?  Plan a honeymoon you can afford, and you can use any cash gifts that guests give on their own as extra spending money.

MNVegas

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[QUOTE]Im having a rustic/country wedding in June and <strong>I'm trying to figure out what I want to do for a money tree or maybe a money bucket?</strong> I was thinking a galvanized bucket! We want the money for extra cash for our honeymoon. <strong>Anyone have any ideas?? </strong>And what saying could you use for the bucket?
Posted by darah04[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Ideas: Don't do money tree/bucke! Asking for cash in any form is rude. I am sure your guest already know that cash is a great gift and you will receive some cash gifts without doing something tacky to get it. </div><div>
</div><div>If you prefer cash gifts, do a small registry for people who want to give boxed gift and others will give a cash gift that you can use on your honeymoon.  
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HobokensFury

No one here is going to give you ideas for something as rude and tacky as a money tree.

Sosteadilygo

I agree with PPs, please re-think this option as your guests have likely spent money in order to attend your wedding, not to mention they likely brought a gift. Asking for money is very rude.

ceh789

A bucket?  Seriously?  How could you possibly think it would be a good idea to have a bucket for your guests to drop change in?

Don't ask your guests for money. Take the honeymoon you can afford.

AdeleDazeem

You do realize that your guests will have already spent their money on getting to your wedding, probably bought you a gift, some are staying in hotels, and a few even already bought you an engagement/shower gift, right?

Now think about if you should ask them for more money.  Especially in the form of a straight up bucket with a sign that says "We want YOU to pay for OUR honeymoon!!!" 

Really think about it.

utegoggles

I agree with all of the previous posts. Please don't do this. Nothing about it is ok.

Summer2011Bride

My only idea for you is to not do this. At all. It is beyond rude to ask for money, and yes, having a tree or bucket for cash IS asking for money. This is not acceptable at all. Others have given suggestions for polite ways to HINT at wanting money (smal registry or no registry, etc). That's the only acceptable way to do this. Plus many guests give cash at the wedding anyhow (most of our physical gifts were at my showers).

Mrs.B6302007

We had an outdoor wedding and used galvanized buckets.




For beer.

londi42

Hmmm, maybe I'm missing something but I've been to plenty of weddings where a wishing well was acceptable and my family and friends have no problem with this.  I guess it all depends on what you are comfortable with.  Everyone's guest are different may what seem rude to one group may be perfectly acceptable to another.

skell16

I think its perfectly acceptable for a money tree type thing.. traditions change and most guest realize that weddings are expensive! so in no way do I think pinning a $1 bill or a $5 dollar bill on a decrative tree is rude! and especially when the bride and groom plan to use the money to help off set the cost of the food, dj, tipping, favors, cake, planner, decorations and whatever else the guest are there enjoying on the bride and grooms dime! I think of it like tipping, people wouldn't go out for a nice dinner and not leave a cash tip behind or listen to a local band at a bar without dropping a few bucks in the hat.

plus it's not like anyone is MAKING the guest add a dollar or two.. if they choose to great, if not then fine too no one will even know or pay attention to who does and does not add anything!

my finace and I will be married one month from today..... and YES we will have a money tree! we're young and poor but we want our guest to have a great time so every dollar they want to spare for the great evening they will expierence will be great .. oh and not to mention SO many guest are bringing all of their "not invited" kids who a)take up seats b)eat food c)cost a lot of money, same as adults at our venue! and instead of being RUDE and uninviting people, hopefully they will leave a little extra cash they are saving by not PAYING a babysitter

kkaura

It's true - traditionally it is inappropriate to request money either at your wedding or at any point beforehand. With that said, it is also true - according to Peggy Post, who is the undebated final word in social etiquette - that traditions change and that at times, particularly for older couples or for those who are remarrying, the newlyweds have no need for wedding registries as they already have many items they need - many times having doubles of items. 

In those situations the bride/groom and their families should not ask for any monetary gifts. It's the same etiquette that dictates no one from the families host wedding/bridal showers because it appears self serving. Instead it should be discretely disclosed that the couple would prefer money instead of a gift. Usually this is done at showers before a wedding - one idea is the invitation to the showers do not have registries listed and when guests ask the host (who is not the bride/groom or family member) can kindly say "They are registered at Target but really they have everything they need and I think they would appreciate a gift so we are having a money tree to surprise them by offsetting their honeymoon/helping them by a new bed/whatever."

But I agree with everyone else - although perhaps a bit more politely than the majority of the responses - it's "Traditionally" not appropriate to ask for money at the wedding, however I have seen a "wishing well" on a gift table for people who wanted to give money - which was helpful for me since my sister and I thought the other purchased a gift and neither one of us brought one. 

In the end it is your wedding. I personally believe it isn't appropriate to have requests for money at a wedding - but because I love the people getting married, or at least feel fondly enough to be there on their most important day, I'd have nothing but good thoughts toward them - I don't feel obligated to give money if I've already given a gift so I wouldn't be offended. And if you have guests who are seriously offended - that one girl was right. They're not going to tell you to your face so who cares? It's time to party rock. It's your freaking wedding.

junci1213

I am also indecisive on a money tree. my fiance and i have been living with each other for awile and do not need house gifts. we dont have kids. so we thought it would be nice to say if you want to give us something fine if not thats fine too. we just think it would also be rude to recieve gifts and end up taking them back because we dont need any physical gifts.

RML79

I came here looking for advice for a nice "money tree" type option; in no way did I expect to see all of the rude comments. I am planning my niece's wedding, and if ANYONE deserves/needs a money tree, it is her and her fiance. No one knows anyone's back story, and this would be extremely beneficial for them. I have read posts on other forums of the same topic that said "plan a honeymoon you can afford"- yes, that is good in theory; but there are more reasons for having a money tree than being selfish. I like the idea of calling it a "wishing well". I guess I will continue searching for ideas on sites/forums that are going to be helpful instead of rude and condescending. 

kmello1983

Personally, we do not have a home. We have a tiny apartment and just do not have the room for any physical items. Therefore we are using a site called honeyfund.com where people can give us money towards a home and/or a honeymoon. So I think a moneytree is acceptable, pending that you are not asking for items as well. That being said, a bucket is a bit tacky. 

TheVirginians

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[QUOTE]I think its perfectly acceptable for a money tree type thing.. traditions change and most guest realize that weddings are expensive! so in no way do I think pinning a $1 bill or a $5 dollar bill on a decrative tree is rude! and especially when the bride and groom plan to use the money to help off set the cost of the food, dj, tipping, favors, cake, planner, decorations and whatever else the guest are there enjoying on the bride and grooms dime! I think of it like tipping, people wouldn't go out for a nice dinner and not leave a cash tip behind or listen to a local band at a bar without dropping a few bucks in the hat. plus it's not like anyone is MAKING the guest add a dollar or two.. if they choose to great, if not then fine too no one will even know or pay attention to who does and does not add anything! my finace and I will be married one month from today..... and YES we will have a money tree! we're young and poor but we want our guest to have a great time so every dollar they want to spare for the great evening they will expierence will be great :) .. oh and not to mention SO many guest are bringing all of their "not invited" kids who a)take up seats b)eat food c)cost a lot of money, same as adults at our venue! and instead of being RUDE and uninviting people, hopefully they will leave a little extra cash they are saving by not PAYING a babysitter
Posted by skell16[/QUOTE]

No. Host what you can afford. Don't make your plans and expect your guests to pay.

TheVirginians

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[QUOTE]Talkin about rude! Geez so are so kind!
Posted by darah04[/QUOTE]

Money from your guests should not go towards your plans. Who is being rude here?

TheVirginians

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[QUOTE]I came here looking for advice for a nice "money tree" type option; in no way did I expect to see all of the rude comments. I am planning my niece's wedding, and if ANYONE deserves/needs a money tree, it is her and her fiance. No one knows anyone's back story, and this would be extremely beneficial for them. I have read posts on other forums of the same topic that said "plan a honeymoon you can afford"- yes, that is good in theory; but there are more reasons for having a money tree than being selfish. I like the idea of calling it a "wishing well". I guess I will continue searching for ideas on sites/forums that are going to be helpful instead of rude and condescending. 
Posted by RML79[/QUOTE]

If they need money, perhaps you should consider just giving it to them, rather than duping your so-called guests into coming up with money for them.

TheVirginians

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[QUOTE]Hmmm, maybe I'm missing something but I've been to plenty of weddings where a wishing well was acceptable and my family and friends have no problem with this.  I guess it all depends on what you are comfortable with.  Everyone's guest are different may what seem rude to one group may be perfectly acceptable to another.
Posted by londi42[/QUOTE]

Would you invite people to your home and have a wishing well? Same thing.