Asking someone myself for their address so they will get a shower invite?

loopla

Everyone online says the bride doesn't do anything for the shower but register and that is fine of course, but there is a girlfriend of my fiance's best friend whom is of course invited to the wedding and I'd like to have her at the shower.

Is it OK for me to ask her myself for her address? I haven't been in contact wither her in about a month or two and thought it might be a good idea to get back in touch since I'm inviting her and we're friendly, you know?

I just don't want to do something I'm not supposed to do (before I really didn't know), everyone online says the bride doesn't do anything for the shower so I keep thinking of that!! Is this ok to do?

wareagle5678

If you are inviting her to the shower, then I would assume you are inviting her to the wedding as well. Just ask her for her address so that you can send her a wedding invitation. Then you have her address for showers/wedding/TYs.

kellya01

If you think about it this way... maybe this will help you be "okay" with it:  You'll need her address for the wedding invitations.  You give your guest list to the person organizing the shower, which includes addresses.  So, you do the footwork to get all of the info for your guest list, then hand it over.  Really, you're just getting her address for the wedding, and giving the guest list (with addresses) to the organizer of the shower.  You're in the clear, because technically you're still not doing anything for your own shower.  Relax, it's all okay!! :-) 

Milsey32

The PPs hit it right on the nose -- you'll want her address for other things, so it's perfectly fine. And one of my shower hosts has already asked me for addresses, so I'm helping with that ... no biggie. 

P.S. "loopla" is fun to say. [: 

awarm014

It is ok to get addresses for the shower, because when I was a MOH, I would have had no idea who to invite to the shower. The bride really should be giving a list of addresses to the bridal party anyway (if you want to help your attendents out), it takes a lot less time for you then it does for them.