Am I ridiclous?

NikkiPSU

So my FI and I have been dating for 6 years and purchased a house last year... needless to say we have EVERYTHING we need!  So I am registering for all the things I want and can't afford, like a Kitchenaid mixer, crepe maker, and a lot of specialty cooking items from Williams and Sonoma (I love to cook, it's an extreme passion of mine)!  I plan on registering for cheaper things, but so far everything we have on there is pretty expensive, including my toasting flutes (I REALLY want the Swarovski ones at Macy's). 

Do you think this comes across as rude to have such pricey items on the registry?  My MOH told me that it was fine because if someone or a group of people want to buy it they will and if they don't then they won't.  Like I said as things get closer I do plan on putting less expensive items on the registry like towels, cookie sheets, etc.,

tldh

As long as your registry has a range of prices you are okay. I think more and more people are in this situation.

Haylie04

I agree - a range is good!   Register for some smaller items and you should be fine.  People will likely go in on a gift if they want to get something they can't afford.  Just be ready to NOT get some of the more expensive items - it could happen!

jagore08

I think you'll be ok when you put the towels and small baking items on there. 

NikkiPSU

Thanks!  I really don't think I'm going to get EVERYTHING I register for, but I figure what's the harm in putting some dream gifts on there and hoping for the best!  Althought I will say the current must have is the $8.95 mozzerella slicer!

mysticl

We have some of that pricey williams and sonoma stuff too.  If we get it awesome.  If people give us cash/gift certificates we use those to get it. 

Albireo

Keep in mind that with expensive items, if nobody gives them you'll probably get a discount on buying them yourself after the wedding.

And a range of things is great. Cheapest thing on my registry: a few nice kitchen tools like ladles and strainers between $7-10. Most expensive thing: a 12-piece pots and pans set that's usually $500 but keeps going on sale for $200. :P

happy_sarah

I think it's fine if you include some cheaper items. But I've always loved getting together with another friend or two to buy a "big" present as a group gift!

quotequeen

Having expensive items is fine.  Having only expensive items can come across like you expect everybody to spend much on you.

Galaxy8227

I agree with PP's.  As long as your have a range of prices you'll be fine. Plus the completion discount that most places offer with help with the large items if you decide to purchase them after the wedding. 

skippylouwho

Regarding the Swarovski toasting flutes at Macy's, I'm guessing these are the pair with Swarovski crystals in the stems?  Like $360 a pair?

I know because I bought them for DD.  She has wanted those ever since she first saw them when she was about 12. Seriously wanted them.

They never go on sale - except when Macy's has their Friends & Family sale, then you can use the F&F coupon to get  25% off. If you know an employee that will purchase them for you  then they will get their employee discount too. That is the cheapest you will ever find them at Macy's.

Was my daughter appreciative (I gave them to her and FI for Christmas lthis past year). She sat and hugged the box with a dazed look for quite a few minutes. The next day I walked in to the family room again, she was sitting on the floor again hugging the box.   Her FI told me he knew she wanted them, didn't realize how much she wanted them until he saw her open them. He thanked me for getting them as a gift for her (them.).

Was that a lot of money to spend - oh yes - even at 45% off but it was something important that I'd always told her I would get for her when she got engaged. I wish I'd bought them when she first saw them - at a mere $60 a pair.  That was about 12 years ago.

loop0406

I think you should have a range, starting from $40 because not all guests will be able to spend lots of money

CA2MT4EveR

Are you hoping to get the toasting flutes at your shower to use at the wedding?  Is this something you plan to use more than once rather than just look at and collect dust?

Take this as a time to upgrade or replace old utensils.  You can always put away spatulas and other kitchen utensils that need replacement every year or two.  Kitchen towels fade and become old and turn into rags.  What if you had some nice new ones to take out every few months.  Those are items that don't cost a lot that you can register for. 

AshleyAngel

I don't know, I think it's important to put the things you need/want. We ran into that when doing our registry, I ended up with more expensive things because I didn't want to end up with a bunch of gifts I didn't even want. At the end of the day, if people can't afford what's on your registry they will just go ahead and get you something else that they think you might want, a gift card or some cash.

BlueBoxBride

My fiance and I have been living together for YEARS, but we still managed to find things to upgrade (*we'll donate our starter housewares to Salvation Army) and register for. 

Now is the time to register for sets of items that will be a real ********** to purchase yourselves later on. Example, a place setting of your china may cost each couple $100 (*an amount they want to spend on you) but if you wanted to buy the entire set later on, you would drop over $1k. Quality cookware, knives, bar ware, linens, flatware, towels and glassware are all great "upgrades" to register for. We also registered for a lot of cookbooks through WS, since we want to build up a serious collection (*and each book is under $30).