Best online Honeymoon Registry!?!?

awillard26

Hi all! My future hubby and I want to do an online honeymoon registry. Which one is the best?? The two I have heard of are honeyfund.com and honeymoonwishes.com. Anyone heard about others or which one is the best?

Viczaesar

No.

ShakeUpTampa

I heard of TACKY and RUDE....that is what a honeymoon registry is. If someone else can't afford go on a vacation why should they pay for you to?

MandaK12

You're not going to get any good reactions about this here, but I, for one, thing honeymoon registries can be a great option. Honeyfund is kind of weird, though, because guests just commit to giving you a certain gift, and then they provide you with a check or cash for it at your wedding. If guests pay with a credit card through HoneymoonWishes, there's a 10% fee total.

We're using Honeymoon Pixie, which has lower fees than either of these and doesn't put ads on your registry page like some other places. It's super flexible, and we've really liked it thus far. Our guests have had great reactions to it, too, so you should do what you think is right for you!

MNVegas

NONE! 

Asking for cash in any form is inappropriate.  Cash registries are deceitful to your guests. People think they are buying you an actual gift, but in fact you are receiving a lump sum check, minus fees charged by the registry. 

Why do you need some gimmicky website to collect cash gifts for you? I'm sure your guests already know that cash is a great gift and they know have to put cash/check in a card.  Use those cash gifts toward your honeymoon. Can't get much easier than that.

HobokensFury

None they all rip your guests off.

micls

While I'm not mortally offended at the idea of honeymoon registries, any more than any registries, I don't really get the point of them.

Can someone who has one explain? what's the point of setting this up? Why hand over a decent chunk of your gift to a company that basically does nothing? Why do you need it at all? What exactly is the benefit?

The benefits of a normal registry are clear, even if it's not for me, but what benefit is there to this, for either the bride and groom or the guests?

AdeleDazeem

The website takes a portion of what your guests pay.  You don't get a $100 dinner on the beach.  You get $90 towards whatever you want; the website takes $10.  These websites are a complete rip off to your guests.

If you want honeymoon money, just spread by word of mouth that you are saving for a honeymoon.  You'll get the $100 to spend as you wish and there's no middle man taking a portion off the top.

MyNameIsNot

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[QUOTE]While I'm not mortally offended at the idea of honeymoon registries, any more than any registries, I don't really get the point of them. Can someone who has one explain? what's the point of setting this up? <strong>Why hand over a decent chunk of your gift to a company that basically does nothing?</strong> Why do you need it at all? What exactly is the benefit? The benefits of a normal registry are clear, even if it's not for me, but what benefit is there to this, for either the bride and groom or the guests?
Posted by micls[/QUOTE]

<div>Couples don't think it through, and assume that people won't give money unless they are duped into it.  </div>

amymaysa

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[QUOTE]You're not going to get any good reactions about this here, but I, for one, thing honeymoon registries can be a great option. <strong>Honeyfund is kind of weird, though, because guests just commit to giving you a certain gift, and then they provide you with a check or cash for it at your wedding</strong>. If guests pay with a credit card through HoneymoonWishes, there's a 10% fee total. We're using Honeymoon Pixie , which has lower fees than either of these and doesn't put ads on your registry page like some other places. It's super flexible, and we've really liked it thus far. Our guests have had great reactions to it, too, so you should do what you think is right for you!
Posted by MandaK12[/QUOTE]

This is what most of them do and its sneaky.

[Deleted User]

Honeyfund.com has gotten a great response with us. And since my fiance is a police officer he can get called into work anytime so it works best for us instead of being required to pay for a trip upfront that we might not be able to make and losing all that money anyway. 

Ali092011

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[QUOTE]Honeyfund.com has gotten a great response with us. And since my fiance is a police officer he can get called into work anytime so it works best for us instead of being required to pay for a trip upfront that we might not be able to make and losing all that money anyway. 
Posted by nolap009[/QUOTE]

Wait, so your guests think they're helping you pay for your honeymoon. But if your H ends up having to work while you're supposed to be on your honeymoon, you're just going to keep the money for something else?

amymaysa

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[QUOTE]Honeyfund.com has gotten a great response with us. And since my fiance is a police officer he can get called into work anytime so it works best for us instead of being required to pay for a trip upfront that we might not be able to make and losing all that money anyway. 
Posted by nolap009[/QUOTE]

They have trip insurance one can buy for not much money that could help with that.
I guess I don't get having to depending on your guests paying for your honeymoon.

To each their own, but I would never buy anyone anything from their type of registry

TiffannieF

First, OP, there is a stickie at the TOP of this board that says "Thinking about a Honeymoon registry".  Please if you would like sincere advice from people, be courteous to others and look at least on the first page to see if your subject has been brought up before.

Second, I would never contribute to a HM registry.

Third, most people will give you cash at the actual wedding.  DH and I had quite a large registry yet we received more cash gifts at the actual wedding then wrapped gifts.

KellyBrian2013

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[QUOTE]Honeyfund.com has gotten a great response with us. And since my fiance is a police officer he can get called into work anytime so it works best for us instead of being required to pay for a trip upfront that we might not be able to make and losing all that money anyway. 
Posted by nolap009[/QUOTE]

Oh, FFS. Please do not use your FI's profession as an excuse for your incredibly rude behavior. Police officers CAN take time off - it's called "vacation". He has to have the time available and have it scheduled ahead of time. If he hasn't been there long enough to earn it or has already used it, then you're SOL. Guess you're waiting for a honeymoon.

If you want to be rude and deceive your guests into giving you cash, call it that. But your FH being a police officer has nothing to do with that....

Edit: I voted other. PAY FOR YOUR DAMN VACATION YOURSELF!

kekr0202

I am going to answer the question that was actually asked.  After looking into a few sites we chose to go with Honeyfund.com and have been quite pleased.

I know most dislike it but it works for us and our social circle and as I've said before I don't think a honeymoon registry is any more or less rude than a Target registry, etc.

MyNameIsNot

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[QUOTE]I am going to answer the question that was actually asked.  After looking into a few sites we chose to go with Honeyfund.com and have been quite pleased. I know most dislike it but it works for us and our social circle and as I've said before<strong> I don't think a honeymoon registry is any more or less rude than a Target registry</strong>, etc.
Posted by kekr0202[/QUOTE]

<div>You might not think so, just like you might choose not to believe in gravity.  The fact of the matter remains that honeymoon registries are very rude.  </div>

kekr0202

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Best online Honeymoon Registry!?!? : You might not think so, just like<strong> you might choose not to believe in gravity.</strong>  <strong>The fact of the matter remains that honeymoon registries are very rude. </strong> 
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]

Little confused by that statement as fact and opinion are two very different things.  I respect your opinion and you should respect mine even if we don't agree.

magnumti3

I don't personally know of the best honeymoon registy, I will be searching for one as well. I don't really understand how they are rude though. How is registering for a Dyson Vac not rude rather than a contribution to a nice vacation?
I mean your guests do get to come enjoy your wedding and you foot the bill... it's nice to give the newly married couple something they want in return...

samgirl

we are really enjoying depositagift.com -- great customer service and easy interface. plus you can register for anything that you want to be like a group gift. much better than registering for a bunch of stuff we don't need. plus we can make better use of the gift money and shop on sale or get an online deal. @magnumti3 - a dyson would be a really cool item to put on the depositagift.com registry.  thanks for the idea

annakrensky

We're using depositagift too! Like samgirl said, their customer service is so great and the owner personally helped us make our registry as effective and tasteful as possible. We really like that you can put honeymoon stuff on it and other household stuff too (or anything really!).

meagkcal62

We're using honeyfund and so far it's going great!!

jacqisagirl

No matter how you look at it, you are asking friends and family to open their wallets. Gift giving is evolving. Many couples getting married today already have pots and pans and food processors - why would they need more stuff? A Honeymoon Gift Registry is a great alternative - friends and family contribute to a couple's overall experience and forever lasting memories through a trip of a lifetime. Not only is the gift giver contributing to something very, very special but when that couple returns they share pictures and stories of their adventure. In my eyes that is more special and meaningful than a pot or a pan. A recent Honeymoon Gift Registry study revealed that more money is given to Honeymoon Gift Registries than traditional gift registries. This trend proves that friends and family get more joy out of contributing to an experience rather than giving a material object.

In addition, let's look at the dollars and cents of a Honeymoon Gift Registry vs. a Traditional Gift Registry. When you register for, let's say a set of plates at Crate & Barrel, you are asking that person buying the gift to pay full price for that item. (not to mention shipping costs) The mark up on items like that is incredible - upwards of 200%. When you are contributing to a Honeymoon Gift Registry whether the couple is doing a DIY honeymoon or working with a travel agent/planner the couple has options of getting the best bang for their gifted dollars.

Finally, let’s look at the real costs of paying a Honeymoon Gift Registry Service. There are a few out there that are “free” but when is ANYTHING free? Those organizations are either selling your information to spammers (have you noticed an increase in random spam emails since signing up?) or they are littering their website with all sorts of advertisements many of which go on your personal Honeymoon Gift page. There is a second tier of Honeymoon Gift Registries like my company, SendUsOff that don’t employ these tactics to get paid. We simply ask for a small percentage of the final total of what the couple receives. Remember that places like Crate & Barrel are asking for 200% on the front end; why not pay a much smaller percentage on the back end, get the gift you really want – a trip of a lifetime - and get a much bigger bang for your gifted dollars!  

Jacq Nichols with SendUsOff.com

ChongsGirl

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[QUOTE]Hi all! My future hubby and I want to do an online honeymoon registry. Which one is the best?? The two I have heard of are honeyfund.com and honeymoonwishes.com. Anyone heard about others or which one is the best?
Posted by awillard26[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>I know it has been a while since this was posted but I had to respond based on all the negative point of views since I LOVE honeymoon registries...</div><div>
</div><div>My husband and I were married in 2008 and we registered our Honeymoon. He had been living on his own for quite some time and I had built up my own collection of (really nice!) household items, that when we got engaged and started talking through where to register, we realized we didn't NEED much for our house.</div><div>
</div><div>I had been coordinating weddings for a couple years at that point and honeymoon registries were becoming more and more popular, and so I did a little research. There were over 10 different registry options at the time and I read up on each one and chose the one that had the smallest fee and most flexible payout option.</div><div>
</div><div>By the time our wedding day came we had about 70% of our honeymoon paid for.</div><div>
</div><div>I still wanted to make this a special gift for the guests as well, and that we showed how much we appreciated their gift of time and the memories we were creating, so as we did an activity that we had registered for, we took a picture. Then, when it came time to sending out thank you's, we included a picture of what they gifted us with along with a note of appreciation (and sometimes funny story!). It made writing the thank you's so fun, and got so many great responses from our guests saying how wonderful it was to help plan out our honeymoon.</div><div>
</div><div>So I am a huge advocate for honeymoon funds and here is my tips/advice when considering this:</div><div>
</div><div>- Do your "due diligence" and research ALL honeymoon fund websites to see what fits you and your guests most - they are all different!</div><div>- Take photos along the way to share with the specific person(s) who gave that gift to you.</div><div>- Make reading your registry an adventure - make it fun for your guests! Instead of putting "rent a car" say "First Ride in a Red Convertible!"</div><div>
</div><div>Here are what I think the benefits are of a honeymoon registry:</div><div>
</div><div>- Not going into debt first thing after being married. Finances is already one of the main reasons couples have issues. Why start off on the wrong foot? (This is my MAIN reason!)</div><div>- Not getting 5 toasters that you don't need :-)</div><div>- Creating memories that you may not have done if you had been paying for it all yourself (for my husband and I, it was a Helicopter Tour!)</div><div>
</div><div>You are of course entitled to your own opinion, and you know your guests better than anyone, but for the Northwest, it is not looked down on at all and a great option!</div><div>
</div>

hitchedtoamick

I just had to say based on the over-the-top forum responses on this topic alone, I'm glad I'm not using this website to plan my wedding, the only thing more "RUDE" than a honeymoon registry (read:irony), is JUDGING PEOPLE WITH YOUR NARROW MINDED OPINIONS IN ALL CAPS on a wedding website. Wedding, remember?? Happy? True Love?  Wow, holy land of a thousand bitches. 

 

For all those feeling shame from these ladies with nothing better to do than "tisk tisk" your personal choice of registry and not offer up any factual information whatsoever, please realize HM registries are now the norm, not the exception, and if you ask, most of  the people you talk to you, someone they knew had one, and they loved it. Meaning, THE GUESTS. 

Good Luck Knotties, it's rough out here. 

Back to the Darkside,

A Non Bitchy Bride

Steph11x

I know this post is over a year old, but I really had to respond to some of these comments.

We are on the hunt for a honeymoon registry as well (that's how I found this thread) and at least here in the Pacific NW (we live in Seattle) it is absolutely not considered rude.  We've lived together for 2 years and have nearly everything we need, so why make people buy us things we don't need (with the same cash that would go towards a honeymoon registry) when they could give us part of a special vacation that we couldn't otherwise afford?  You are contributing to an experience instead of a gravy boat that you really didn't need but felt like you needed to add since you coudln't come up with anything else.  I have given to many HM registries for weddings and LOVED that I was helping them go on an amazing trip that they will remember for the rest of their lives.  I just don't think they will look at my gravy boat and think "man, that really sums up the beginning of my marraige- so glad that's what I got!".   If you need a lot of items to start your life together than a traditional registry is great, and if you already have what you need, but you want to take an amazing trip, then I think a honeymoon fund is fantastic and equally as special.

What I DO think is RUDE is so many of your responses.  She didn't ask if you thought it was tacky, she asked your opinion on a few sites.  If you have an opinion on the sites, then respond.  Otherwise, live and let live.  So disappointing to see responses like this- when did being so judgmental become so popular?  I thought it was finally going out of style.

As a side note- if anyone DOES have opinions on these sites, I'd love advice as I'm still on the hunt for the right one!

[Deleted User]

You are all stupid assholes who have never planned a DIY wedding because your parents aren't in a position to buy you what ever you want. The people that said you should just spread by word of mouth are out of their goddamn minds. People don't want to just hand over a sum of money and hope it goes to your honeymoon. People like the idea of buting an experiance. We have lived together and we don't want dishware. we want to take some time to travel. Asking for an experiance over a household item isn't tacky. It means you're not a shallow mindless robot. Eveyone is so hung up on the idea that the website charges money. As if that's a surprise. The idea is that its something you can cross off the list in a simple and practical way that will give you what you really want.

jsaal

I just want to say hell yes!  Thanks you for writing this.  I'm not married yet but I have given to two different honeymoon registries to couples who love to travel.  What an awesome gift!  When I get married I will certainly have one.  And I'm confident no one on my guest list is stuffy enough to look down on me for it.  I'm a travel addict and I couldn't think of a better gift for myself.  If you don't like it, give me something else, or nothing at all... I don't care.  I will still be marrying an amazing man at the end of the day.  And life it too short to be so judgemental.

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[QUOTE]No matter how you look at it, you are asking friends and family to open their wallets. Gift giving is evolving. Many couples getting married today already have pots and pans and food processors - why would they need more stuff? A Honeymoon Gift Registry is a great alternative - friends and family contribute to a couple's overall experience and forever lasting memories through a trip of a lifetime. Not only is the gift giver contributing to something very, very special but when that couple returns they share pictures and stories of their adventure. In my eyes that is more special and meaningful than a pot or a pan. A recent Honeymoon Gift Registry study revealed that more money is given to Honeymoon Gift Registries than traditional gift registries. This trend proves that friends and family get more joy out of contributing to an experience rather than giving a material object. In addition, let's look at the dollars and cents of a Honeymoon Gift Registry vs. a Traditional Gift Registry. When you register for, let's say a set of plates at Crate & Barrel, you are asking that person buying the gift to pay full price for that item. (not to mention shipping costs) The mark up on items like that is incredible - upwards of 200%. When you are contributing to a Honeymoon Gift Registry whether the couple is doing a DIY honeymoon or working with a travel agent/planner the couple has options of getting the best bang for their gifted dollars. Finally, let’s look at the real costs of paying a Honeymoon Gift Registry Service. There are a few out there that are “free” but when is ANYTHING free? Those organizations are either selling your information to spammers (have you noticed an increase in random spam emails since signing up?) or they are littering their website with all sorts of advertisements many of which go on your personal Honeymoon Gift page. There is a second tier of Honeymoon Gift Registries like my company, SendUsOff that don’t employ these tactics to get paid. We simply ask for a small percentage of the final total of what the couple receives. Remember that places like Crate & Barrel are asking for 200% on the front end; why not pay a much smaller percentage on the back end, get the gift you really want – a trip of a lifetime - and get a much bigger bang for your gifted dollars!   Jacq Nichols with SendUsOff.com
Posted by jacqisagirl[/QUOTE]

jengii

I am with the other recent bumps in this thread that what is truly AMAZINGLY rude is everyone being so hateful toward the OP!

I AM A WEDDING GUEST AND I LOVE HONEYMOON REGISTRIES. 

You can thrash and whine and scrunch your nose all you want, but HM registries are the new wave, the new socially acceptable, and they are here to stay.

When I am considering what to give a friend as a wedding gift, my ONLY concern is "what can I give these people that I love, that THEY will love, to celebrate one of the happiest times in their lives?" If that is to bankroll a portion of a vacation that they are taking in celebration of GETTING FREAKING MARRIED (I mean, hi, in my world, that's a big deal), then I am SO happy to do that.

It makes me feel more like I am helping the couple out than getting them a salad spinner that's going to get lost in the back of their pantry and eventually given to Goodwill. Get your heads out of your asses, you cunty judgmental bitches.