My fiance and I are combining two households (he is 47 and I am 46), and I have downsized to antiques, heirlooms, prized possessions as we already have a full 6,000 sq ft house. We are having a dilemma on how to approach no gifts please, as my mom feels it extremely selfish not to allow guests to show their love/appreciation - when them being with us is what is important to us (their presence is the best present I can think of). We are considering two alternatives for those wishing a way to express their happiness for us -- gift donations to a local hospice (cared for my fiance's mom when she was dying of cancer) - and it is an insidious disease that has affected both our families. As well, we are considering cash gifts towards our honeymoon. But ladies, I need some input, opinions - and if you were a guest, would no gifts please be offensive to you (not on our invites but as our wedding is in the mountains, and many guests will be coming from overseas/out of province, we have included a brochure for our wedding town for activities/maps/etc - listing my mom as a contact for questions/concerns - so most likely asked of her by phone/email