My bf is friends with the groom. They're having a dinner - but we're not invited. As far as I know, only some family is invited to the dinner, while everyone is invited to the ceremony beforehand and the boat cruise reception. There will be no dinner on the boat either - no dinner, cash bar. Kinda feels a little gift-grabby to me. Generally we give cash but I'm thiking of just getting some stuff off the registry. To be hosest, it's costing us more to attend than seems worth it. What would you give?