My mom has been talking about my bridal shower practically since before we got engaged. When it comes to the shower, her and her sisters are all over it. There's just one problem...she wants me to have NOTHING to do with it. I casually mentioned in a store that I thought the bridal game they had there was cute and she bit my head off. I understand it's up to them, and I'm fine with that. But the problem is that I'm not real traditional. I don't want just a bridal shower. I want a couple shower. I'm not into the whole "all about the bride" thing. I feel like the gifts are for us and to celebrate OUR marriage, so we should both be a part of it. I also don't like just inviting women to the party. It seems too 1950's and I'm not into it. I'm not a housewife and half of the items we registered for are items he's going to be using. I'm afraid to bring it up to her though because she's freaked out everytime I've even uttered the words "bridal shower". Any advice on the best way to handle it so that she can still feel completely in control while still getting the type of party we want? Also, for my cousins wedding a few years back, the theme of her shower (thrown by the same women mind you) was "fairies". They're very girly women and I'm really not. I just don't foresee it working as a couples shower well without them knowing that that's what iIwant from the very beginning.