Question

jhnkins

My MOH is starting the work on my bridal shower. Now, my fiance and I have already registered for the wedding. Are people suppose to buy gifts off of that registry for my bridal shower. I'm thinking that the answer to that is no, but I'm not for sure.

If the answer is no, where do I go. I'm not a thin woman, so Victoria Secret or any other places like that is out of the question. What do I do????

ElisabethJoanne

This largely depends on your circle of friends. In many circles, guests give registry gifts at the shower and cash at the wedding. In some circles, a bridal shower is at least partially a lingerie shower. I've never heard of registering for lingerie; the invitations just state the bride's size/measurements.

Double-check with your MOH that she is not planning a lingerie shower (or any other specialty shower; there used to be pantry showers where guests brought canned goods; early co-ed showers focused on garden tools). If not, expect your shower guests to mostly buy gifts from your existing registry, as well as any other wedding-appropriate gifts.

SCogs18

In my area/circle, shower gifts are off the wedding registry.  Lingerie is only given at a lingerie party (you should know/be told if it's a lingerie party because your MOH will need to ask your sizes).

If I were to find out it was a lingerie party and not a bridal shower it would affect who I invite (I wouldn't want my FMIL to see the sexy items I would be wearing for her son--awkward!)

rlavach

Exactly what the PP said. Around here, a registry is used for the bridal shower & then cash/check is given at the wedding. Lingerie showers are kind of rare (at least in my circle). Lingerie is given at the bridal shower too, but there are no measurements on the invite. That would be weird! 

Just ask your MOH what she plans.

Wmb0124

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_question-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:f6175791-f6d2-498d-80e5-141bef8e071aPost:4508950d-4708-4e20-9413-0d5e9e7f41f2">Re: Question</a>:
[QUOTE]In my area/circle, shower gifts are off the wedding registry.  Lingerie is only given at a lingerie party (you should know/be told if it's a lingerie party because your MOH will need to ask your sizes). If I were to find out it was a lingerie party and not a bridal shower it would affect who I invite (<strong>I wouldn't want my FMIL to see the sexy items I would be wearing for her son--awkward</strong>!)
Posted by SCogs18[/QUOTE]

I didn't have a lingerie shower, and the only person to even buy me lingerie was my MIL! It was a little awkward, to say the least. Luckily it wasn't anything too sexy. I ended up taking it back to the store.

OP, your guests will more than likely buy from the registry. Most people see that as the point of even having a registry.

HobokensFury

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_question-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:f6175791-f6d2-498d-80e5-141bef8e071aPost:a5d99469-1023-4bb6-984b-8c2cf217e245">Re: Question</a>:
[QUOTE]Exactly what the PP said. Around here, a registry is used for the bridal shower & then cash/check is given at the wedding. Lingerie showers are kind of rare (at least in my circle). Lingerie is given at the bridal shower too, but there are no measurements on the invite. That would be weird!  Just ask your MOH what she plans.
Posted by rlavach[/QUOTE]

This, but then again we live in the same area. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />

mandi921vh

In my area guests usually buy shower gifts off of the wedding registry.

hoffse

OP I don't know what's the norm in Omaha, but in my area people use the registry for both the shower(s) and the wedding.  If it's a lingerie shower then it's usually clear from the invitations and either the sizes will be listed or the bride will have a small registry at a place like kohls or dillard's that lets you do lingerie registries.  I think lingerie registries are sort of strange, tbh, so if it's a lingerie shower consider just telling your MOH your sizes so that guests can pick out things they're comfortable with.  Personally, I usually give a robe or something like that for lingerie showers because the whole thing seems sort of awkward to me.