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Who acts like this really?

So this past weekend our parents met for the first time.  My parents planned a dinner that included my grandma, FI's parents, and FI's grandma.  Well, they arrived late, only 15 minutes so it wasn't a big deal.  We sat down to dinner and FMIL wouldn't eat or speak.  She ate a few cucumbers and stared off into space and at her food.  She wouldn't even look at any of us.  She then proceeded to answer several phone calls and evidently made an appointment in the middle of dinner.  She then had to leave for 30-45 minutes taking FI with her and then they came back to finish dinner, but she still didn't eat anything.  FFIL had to cut up all this food and feed her and she barely ate a few pieces of it.  She only spoke to say that she didn't want FI to get get married until after he graduated from grad school because she wanted him to be successful and tell the whole town, as if to imply that by getting married, he would be unsuccessful and not finish school.  Anyways... just a rant, but seriously... what grown adult acts like this!  How Rude!She's never liked me and has attempted to bribe him on several occasions to break up with me.

Re: Who acts like this really?

  • edited December 2011
    wow....
  • kmmssgkmmssg mod
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    edited December 2011
    In all seriousness - is she mentally stable?  FFIL cut her food up?  There is something beyond wierd going on here.
  • kmmssgkmmssg mod
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    edited December 2011
    What did your FI have to say after that was over?
  • jodipplsjodippls member
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    edited December 2011
    Wow... I'm really sorry you're having to go through that.
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  • edited December 2011
    Your FFIL had to cut up your FMIL's food so she would eat a few bites? She bribed your FH into not going out with you? What does your FI have to say about all of this? How has she acted to you before this?
  • duckie1905duckie1905 member
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    edited December 2011
    Wow.  Sounds like more than anger, she sounds like she has some serious mental issues. What does your FI say about her behavior and more importantly, why has he continued to tolerate it?
  • janedoe1113ajanedoe1113a member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm also curious to what FI has to say about her behavior.
  • MissAngelMissAngel member
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    edited December 2011
    Oh.. sorry it took so long to reply.  I don't go on this board very often.  FI has been fighting with her since the day she met me.  She has never liked me... moreso due to superficial reasons and has nothing to do with anything I've done.  She sat down and talked with me once about a month ago and "strongly advised" (her words) me to consider getting some plastic surgery done before the wedding because I still had time and recovery time should be short.  I told her I didn't need any and she said... "oh, you don't think you need any?  hmm..."  So whatever... FI keeps defending me and telling her that he's not leaving me no matter what so she should just learn to love me... but she just won't change.  I told FI that I tried to be cordial all these years, so I don't feel like I should have to try anymore.  There is no need to subject myself to this vile behavior.  When we have kids, they have one set of grandparents, their maternal ones.  Ugh!
  • edited December 2011
    Yikes! FILs sound... special. Good luck with that!
  • edited December 2011
    PS - Your post totally made me think of this:[img]<a href="http://flyingcart.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/how_rude.jpg" rel='nofollow'>http://flyingcart.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/how_rude.jpg</a>[/img]
  • duckie1905duckie1905 member
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    edited December 2011
    hahahaha
  • kmmssgkmmssg mod
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    edited December 2011
    Kudos to FI for having your back.  I'm going to strongly encourage you guys to get into some serious premarital counseling.  You guys are going to need to set some very serious boundaries with her that could include cutting ties with her.  If my parents treated my DH like that - we would be done until they could accept him and respect him. You need a strategy for that now - not after the wedding when FI will be possibly looking at some very tough decisions.  Find a counselor now who can help you start dealing with how you will handle this as a married couple and what boundaries you need to set. Both of my MIL's were gems - wonderful women that I miss very much.  I'm so sorry you are dealing with this.
  • edited December 2011
    She wanted you to get plastic surgery? Marry him and move far, far away! Just my opinion.......
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  • edited December 2011
    WOW!! What a rude person she is!! Im sorry you have to put up with this , I guess i take it for granted that I have amazinf FIL's .
    Mrs Marino
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  • Daizy - you do realize this thread is 4 years old, right?
  • anyone else curious four years later how this all turned out??
  • WTF? She had the guts to tell you to get plastic surgery? SHE'S INSANE! you should tell her she needs plastic surgery on her big MOUTH! I am so glad these are not my in laws (even though mine are not too far behind yours) I feel so bad for you, I really hope you get to talk to your fiance and he can maybe talk to his mother and tell her to mind her own business and leave you alone. ugh!!! 
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