My FI just started working 3 months ago after being layed off for a year. Work is hard to find in this area it wasn't because he wasn't trying. Well, he has 2 daughters that we have everyother week during the summer. He pays child support and is left with very little each week out of his paycheck. I support his girls, my three (their dad passed away 3 years ago), my FI and myself. I am paying for the entire wedding, rings and honeymoon. I feel like he doesn't realize how hard things are for me financially and his girls don't seem to appreciate what I can offer them. They live in a travel trailer with their mom at her parents house. I'm feeling like it is expected of me to take care of everything.
The straw that broke the camels back:
Last night I set up a queen size blow-up mattress in the office for the girls to sleep on. They usually sleep on the trundle in my 7 year olds room and he sleeps on a box spring on his brother's floor. FI was upset that the girls were moved to the office. I have worked VERY hard to have a nice home and bedrooms for all three of my kids. I don't think it is unreasonable to want my son sleeping in his own room when there is an alternative plan for the girls. AT LEAST THEY HAVE AIR CONDITIONING AND RUNNING WATER HERE.
A pre-nup is order I think.
Signed, Feeling Used