Second Marriages Over the age of 45 and registering...?????

debi1941

Ok, so I am being given  a "luncheon" not a shower, so no gifts, but still people are asking me where I am registered...Registered, I am 47 yrs old, own a home, why on earth would i register...lol .... I find it sooo funny......

So, now a cousin of mine in Florida who cannot make it in for the wedding, asked me the same question...where are you registered......

Did anyone register for gifts????  If so....where??? like a macy's or a target or a bed bathand beyond......??

I honestly feel funny registering.....am i wrong?????


HELP  !!!!!

right1thistime

Register?  YES!!

You are more difficult to buy a gift for than any 24 year old first time bride. 
Your guests may want to buy you something in celebration of your wedding.
Even if you don't want gifts, that won't stop people from buying them. 
IF you register, there's a better chance that your loved ones will spend their hard earned money on a present that will actually suit you and that you can actually use.

What would you like to have that belongs to just the two of you- with no "last time around" baggage?  We bought a new bed with our wedding money, and chose to register at Macy's for new sheets/ pillows/ blankets, etc.

Most registries offer a completion discount, that for a month after your wedding (or longer) you get 10% off anything not bought if you buy it yourself.

Do you really want to risk the chili pepper lamp?  ~Donna

debi1941

Donna, I never really thought about it...but you make complete sense, and NO i do not want a chilli pepper lamp or another vase i have no need for......

LesPaul

I am your age, and in hindsight Iwish I had registered for some basics and upgrades.  Not traditional registry items like china or flatware, but maybe bedding or some kitchen stuff.  Or outdoor items at REI.  Donna is wise.

AbbeyS2011

Definitely register!  I am sure there are things around the house that need updating, or what about that (fill in the blank) you have had your eye on for a while now?

I am registering for bedding, towels, camping equipment that we need/want, and possibly some outdoor stuff.  I have plenty of "dust collectors" already. 

Oooooooooo.....every time I read "chili pepper lamp", I get a cold shiver down my spine...

MikesAngie

We registered, our respective ex's took everything that they wanted or that was of value.  

So, yes register!!!!

debi1941

Well, I guess I have to get past the "i'm too old to register" syndrome and just do it...

Sure, I like everyone else can always use new towels and sheets and the likes..:)

So, I guess I'll add it to the list of things I need to do...

Wow, this list gets longer and longer!!!

Thanks everyone !

2dBride

I was 56 on our wedding day, and it was my second marriage.  My wife was 41, and it was her first wedding.  We didn't plan to register initially.  However, the moment we sent out the invitations, people started asking where we were registered.

We ended up with an online registry at Amazon.com, which was wonderful because you can add anything found online to it, not just things on Amazon.  We also had registries at Target, Home Depot, and BBB for our guests who preferred brick and mortar stores.

sonomagal

OMG. It didn't even occur to me to register. 

But it's true!  What will people do about gifts?  You write "no gifts"on the invitation,  but half the people don't heed the request and the other half feel bad because they did what they were asked but see the pile of gifts that the first group left behind. 

What I really need is a washer/dryer.  A new master bathroom would also be nice as would new bedroom carpeting.  So I was thinking of asking people to get gift cards from stores like Best Buy, Lowes, Home Depot, Amazon, etc.  Are gift cards odd to ask for?  How does one register for those?





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[QUOTE]Well, I guess I have to get past the "i'm too old to register" syndrome and just do it... Sure, I like everyone else can always use new towels and sheets and the likes..:) So, I guess I'll add it to the list of things I need to do... Wow, this list gets longer and longer!!! Thanks everyone !
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kimp67

I thought it was strange for us to register too.  But after reading all the posts in the G&R section & some here, we did.  It turned out that we could use more things than we originally thought.  We did ours' at Bed Bath & Beyond & Boscovs.

Lisa50

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[QUOTE]Definitely register!  I am sure there are things around the house that need updating, or what about that (fill in the blank) you have had your eye on for a while now? I am registering for bedding, towels, camping equipment that we need/want, and possibly some outdoor stuff.  I have plenty of "dust collectors" already.  <strong><font color="#ff6600">Oooooooooo.....every time I read "chili pepper lamp", I get a cold shiver down my spine...
</font></strong>Posted by AbbeyS2011[/QUOTE]

Me too!  Now that I've been convinced to register I have to convince my FI.  LOL!

ETA: I am sure we can find a few things at Williams-Sonoma.  Heh, heh, heh ...

hccpsu

I got married for the first time at 45 (DH was 44 and a widower), and we registered.  Practically everyone got us a gift from the registry if they didn't give money.  We selected some kitchen items, towels, picture frames, etc., and I also finally registered for the wine glasses I REALLY wanted, rather than the "nice enough" ones I'd purchased in my 20s.

needle&thread

I am registered at two places...yup TWO.

The way I see it...its a new beginning and I want new things...I don't want items from my previous marriage lingering over to my new one...you're getting new rings right?...yeah, see...thats what I'm talking about.

I especially want sheets, towels and dishes.  However, I don't need anymore china...I didn't use the first set at all...still in the box.  And I refuse to have a 'chili pepper' lamp...

You can also register for people to gift you money toward your honeymoon...at
http://www.thehoneymoon.com/

PLEASE...REGISTER, REGISTER, REGISTER!!!! 

S and CJ

LesPaul

Please don't write 'no gifts' on the invitation.  It is rude to mention gifts at all.  Consider that your friends and loved ones are happy for you, and want to give you and FI a gift to celebrate your wedding.  Keep your registry modest, and don't feel bad about receiving gifts.

Also, honeymoon registries are a very touchy subject around here, as you are essentially asking for cash.  And - many of the registries take a significant percentage off the top.  If I'm giving someone a $100 gift, I want them to receive $100, not $85.

debi1941

Well, I am officially registered!

I made it easy, Bed Bathand Beyond.....everything a home needsunder one roof! lol

Honestly, me and my girlfriend had a blast!  Saw a lot I could use updates on and a lot, wow, I never knew they made those kind of things...so, hopefully no "chilli pepper" lamps for me...

Thanks everyone !!!

My bridal luncheon, somehow is turning into a shower....so, I guess this registry will come in handy...