Ok here's the latest. I have been trying to do what I can to get a wedding together and was going to look at Venues and talk to the Event Managers at these venues and finding ways to cut the budget. Well it all came to a head on Sunday when I told my FI what this one neighbor said. What that was about is we went out on our boat on Sunday to see the "Blue Angels and this one couple (neighbors of ours) joined us.She asked me about what I was planning for our wedding and I told her what I was planning and told her that I was looking at many options. She then proceeded to tell me how I can save some money and I told her that was what I am looking to do. She asked me if I even knew the price of wedding gowns and that they were not cheap and I told her that I knew from doing some online research but have not priced them in any bridal shops. I had a budget that I set for that.Then she got upset and said "I was trying to give you some ideas and you don't want to take them"I was like thinking what the h**, and I told her that I appreciated her ideas and would take them into consideration and that I was looking at all my options and she then said wow you don't want much. It was everything I could do to not be rude so I said nothing more than So I told my FI and he got ticked and told me that most reasonable people would think that I was asking for advice. So now I am unreasonable. I don't remember asking for her advice or options has she asked me what I was planning and how I wanted my wedding to be.Then he tells me that I am sitting here talking about 2000 Venues and 1500 gowns and I said I never said anything about a 1500 gown I had told him that this neighbor said that she spent that on her gown. He said your planning a wedding and we can't even pay our morgage and other bills and your spending money we don't have. I haven't spent a dime on anything. I told him all that I am doing is looking to see what is out there and talk to Venues and make a determination of where the best deal for us so that I know how much money it will be to put aside. Then he tells me that I am selfish and I said how is that? When one day out of the blue he said lets go go ahead and get married and move on with our lifes. I said to him No we can't do that has we want to have his daugher here for this. He said it wasn't going to happen and he has made me wait long enough. So than I proceeded to do that and when I reminded him of what he said, his comment was "you hear what you want to hear" that he was very depressed in not having his daugher and I was selfish and jumped right on the planning.I am at the end of this and I told him forget it I don't want to marry you. I just feel hurt has he seems to always have everything centered around him and what he is going through. I am and the relationship is the last thing on his list. I am not sure anymore of anything about us. I feel pretty numb.