When I was divorced, I never changed my last name back to my maiden name. (I have children with my first husband and just thought it would be easier on them to keep their name) Now that I am getting remarried I don't really feel right using my old married name for all the formalities...invitations, announcements and such. I have a year before we get married (Aug 2010) - do you think I should make all the changes back to my maiden name so that when I wed it will be fresh and not associated with my ex? or should i just get over it? It just seems weird to me to see what i know as "my old married name" appear on invitations (or anything for that matter) that is associated with my FI. What did you all do? did you go back to your maiden names? or are you just going with the ex's name?