Well, this isn't my second wedding, but I figured this topic is more likely to have brides who have dealt with this. I have a son who is 6 (acting as ringbearer). Because I wasn't married when he was born, he has my maiden name. While he adores his soon-to-be stepdad, he isn't so thrilled with the idea of me changing my last name. He really wants to have the same last name as me, and since his father is still in the picture, it would be insensitive to try to change his name along with mine. I would really love to have the same last name as all of my children (present and future). My fiance is set on retaining his own last name, and would like to give it to our future children and me. Since that name is well-known and admired in our community, this is understandable...and I like being part of his family. They're just...well, I'm really lucky. As you can see, I'm torn. I wish our last names sounded good hyphenated, but they're just awkward that way. I don't want to leave my son with a last name that doesn't match either of his parents', but I really want to take my fiance's name. (Insert series of swear words and something about less than two weeks here.) Thoughts?