Ok I am in a sort of a dileminia. So I finally nailed my FI to look at the Guest list and delete anyone that he did not want and include those I had possibly forgotten. The guest list was almost 100. and after he got through with it he removed 39 guests which leaves around 52 guests. He wiped off his entire family and lots of people who he has known for a long time. Long story short he does not want to include people who do not care about him or me. The thing is that I still have all my family on the guest list and this has been brothering me for a while that their are a few of them who have been downright disrectful and prejudice has he is a man of color and their has been things said. I know that if I invite some of them and leave some out their will be this big family blow up. If he respects and loves me enough to not invite family members who have done the same to me. I love him very much and I think that I should do the same with those members of my family, Now I feel like I just want to say f this and do a destination wedding, and just have the WP and thats it. I'm just don't know what to do. I would love for our families to be involved but they have chosen to be the way they are to me and to the man that I will spend the rest of our lifes together.