I have been married once before, but my fiance has not. He has remained pretty quiet on the whole idea of a shower, but was fully involved in all of the registering. 2 of my BP (my sis as MOH and an old friend as a BM) are appearing in the BP for the second time. My mom and sis gave me my first shower and I don't think they can afford to do it again...In fact, my mom has said that if my FSIL wants to throw the shower that my mom will help, but doesn't think she can do it on her own. I also don't think I want my family and friends to feel they have to buy another shower gift...let alone how I feel about them giving wedding gifts. The only thing my fiance has said about a shower is that he thinks the women in his family would like us to have one so they can celebrate with me. Here's the question: Do I approach anyone about a shower? Do I ask my sis to approach my FSIL? Do I involve my fiance? Or do I just sit back and see what happens? (I guess I am worried about what his family will think if no one in my family gets the ball rolling??)I have plenty of time (wedding's not til August), but I am worried about how to handle it.