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In Law woes

jcal4jcal4
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Went to a family party for fiance's cousin.  It was the first time we have seen everyone except his parents since getting engaged.  His aunts, uncles & cousins were excited & congratulated us.  They asked all the normal questions you ask a newly engaged couple.  did you set a date?  Where is it going to be?  They wanted to see the ring & ohhed & aahed appropriately.  Fiance's brother's & sisters in law did not say anything. Not even a half hearted congratulations. WTF?  Confirms our decision to elope but makes me question even havving a small family celebration dinner when we return from our destination elopement.  If they are not happy for us fine but at least fake it.
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Re: In Law woes

  • Lisa50Lisa50 member
    2500 Comments 5 Love Its Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    I tend to be a glass half full kind of gal, so I'd take the excitment and congratulations from the aunts, uncles and cousins and enjoy it.  Brothers and their wives (or is it the other way around?) would then be tagged "clueless."  Given the reaction from other family members, I don't know if I would disregard the idea of a post-elopement family dinner.  It sounds like a wonderful way to share your joy!  Good luck!
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  • shytownkellyshytownkelly
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    You know - maybe it isn't that they aren't happy for you - but because everyone else was making a big deal about it, they wanted to wait. 

    Perhaps they would rather have had a private moment with you and FI to congratulate you? 

    I'm not one for being a part of a big group that fawns over someone for really anything - I would rather wait, and send a note or call or just grab a minute with them as they are leaving (for example).  I find it more meaningful that way. 

    Just looking at it from another perspective.

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  • handfast4mehandfast4me member
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    edited December 2011
    There's always someone there to rain on each person's parade.  These folks are your rain.  However, I think that you should go ahead with your plans, and they can choose to be happy or choose to be idiots.  Their choice, but you need to celebrate the wedding to this man in your way. 
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  • Marrin713Marrin713 member
    1000 Comments Third Anniversary 5 Love Its Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    Move on with your wedding & celebrate....not everyone is going to be as excited as you are. 
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  • jcal4jcal4
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Thanks for your support. 
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