Program Question

neverinamillionyears

I have to work with the pastor at the church to put together our program, but while I'm waiting to get together with him, I was playing with some templates. I guess I do have a few questions: My parents are both gone, my brother is giving me away, he is playing Father of the Bride, but I don't want to give him that title in the program. I think Brother of the Bride sounds foolish, especially when I have two other brothers and one is not invited, that's a seperate story. 
Also, I know it's 'our" day, but is there an etiquette about placing "In Memory" in the programs. I want this to be a happy day and everytime I try to write that, I start to cry, I was "daddy's little girl" and just knowing he will be watching down is enough for me, I guess I just don't want people asking why I didn't put the In Memory section in the program.
Thanks!
 ~K

right1thistime

The purpose of the program is to introduce the members of the wedding party and theoretically to keep track of what's happening. 
If you feel strongly about these components (I thought I did, but it was a waste of time and energy), keep it simple.

Signify your brother by describing his role.  So if you are going to write something like Entrance of the Bride you can add "escorted by her brother, once ina trillion"

I do not love in memory sections, unless the loss is recent.  Really recent.  Otherwise, everyone has lost someone they love, and wishes they were with them on special occasions.  Let the occasion be happy.  Keep memories of your parents for a private moment.

Lisa50

We did not have a program.  I think your guests will be fine without them.  That gives you one less thing to worry about.

Sue-n-Kevin

If you want a program, that's fine, if not, that's fine too. As was said above, "escorted by her brother", then naming your brother would be the way to go.

If your brother is a groomsman and you are naming all the wedding party members, you could simply list him in with the wedding party members and call him "Groomsman and Bride's Escort".

The Memorial portion, if you choose to include it, doesn't have to single anyone out. You could simply state, in your own words, something like "On this special day we are remembering those who we wish could be with us". No reason to list them. Every bride and groom has people they've lost that they wish could be there.

xobride

We're not doing a program so if it's really stressing you out, I'd skip it.  As for memorials, both my parents are deceased and I'm putting a framed 8x10 picture of my mother in the first row on the bride's side and have a small picture of my father and I on a miniature frame on my bouquet so while my boys will be physically walking me down the aisle, he will be, too.  I'm also doing a larger picture of the two of them on a small memorial table.  It's more for me than anyone else, but it was very important to me to have something of them there.

neverinamillionyears

Thanks,
Programs are not stressing me out, I personally think it's a nice addition to the ceremony itself.
I thought "Bride's Escort" was the way to go, but wasn't sure if that was the correct wording.
~K