Hello...I've lurked here for a while but haven't posted for a long time. My ex and I are facing a dilemma, and I'd love some advice.
His divorce was extremely contentious, and as you may guess, his ex is not my biggest fan. He has a teenaged son, and we have scheduled our October wedding with a weekend when he is supposed to have visitation with his son.
Obviously the wedding is several months away, but we are wrestling with when to tell his ex we are getting married. His son knows that we are getting married, but not when, and the last thing in the world we want is to put him in the middle or in the position of somehow telling his mother that we're getting married.
On the other hand, we are afraid that when she finds out she may try to cause some kind of problem. (It's a long story, but our fears are valid to a certain extent.) On the other hand, we want to be courteous and not have her find out through a grapevine or from his son.
Help! Obviously we still have to have contact with her, at least until his son graduates, and we don't want to make waves, but we want to be kind and considerate. Any tips on when and how to tell a bristly ex?
Thank you for any assistance you can provide!
