However, I have a 2 and a half year old (NOT from my ex husband - daughter was concieved after divorce, however, her dad and i never had a "relationship" - Long (LONG) story short, He was married, he didnt tell me until AFTER I got pregnant, but I still moved across the country (eastcoast to westcoast) so that he can be in her life - he as a father is an AMAZING father, he just sucks as a human :-)
The bold lines got me thinking - is it really possible to suck as a human being but be a fantastic parent? How great a parent can you be if you think it's ok to be a lying adulterer?
I've come across this situation before - I know a man who has the opinion that women stay in abusive relationships because they like to be hit - he is emotionally and mentally abusive himself (can't say 100% on physical), is milking the system so he doesn't have to work, and is generally a rainy day wherever he goes. Yet I heard another woman (not anyone involved romantically with him) say what a great dad he is.
Again, do you think it is really possible to be a morally bankrupt human being but still be a great parent? My answer is an emphatic no, but I would be interested in finding out if you think I'm way off base here.