Dress let down - anyone else?

ltyka

So, my wedding is in 9 days.  9 DAYS!  There was a problem with the delivery of my dress (long story) and it only came in a couple of weeks ago though I ordered it 11 months ago.  It had to be altered a little and I went in for a final fitting today.  

When I tried it on the first time, I felt so beautiful.  It is simple and elegant and "grown up" for a second wedding.  Today... I felt fat and old and like I shouldn't really be wearing a wedding dress at all.  It didn't help that there was a very young, very beautiful young woman and her entourage in the room next to me giggling and trying on dresses - all of which looked spectacular on her.

I'm 9 days out and thinking I made a mistake on the dress.  It is just what I was looking for, and I think it still is.  But I can't overcome the extreme disappointment I felt when I tried it on today.  Tell me this is normal and simply my mind playing tricks on me!  It's just stress, right?

embracejoy

Yes... you're just stressing, which is understandable!  I'm sure you look beautiful in your dress... try to enjoy these last few days of your engagement!  The goal is in sight!

336339

Me too, just didn't feel as beautiful and felt like the  middle aged woman in an ivory gown trying to suck everything in and smooth everything out.  I wore TWO body shapers!  It's just what we go through.

My best friend and I were alone getting ready, talking about spider veins, body shapers, baggy eyes and dark circles and hair color!  and giggling all along.....

As long as you look beautiful to your FI, that's all that counts to me, and I bet he'll love you in your dress.....

Relax and have a wonderful time!

Lisa50

If you still think it's "the dress," then you did not make a mistake.  It sounds like some last minute stress/jitters to me. 

Breathe and relax.  Enjoy!!

AdelphiTN

I have defintely had those moments. If i put my dress on at home, in the midst of teenage boys, dirty dishes, and general life, i feel very out of place - like wow why am i in a wedding dress.

But remember when you wear it for real, it will be at a WEDDING. As my sister said, a wedding dress is ALWAYS appropriate for a wedding. On that day, you will be surrounded by flowers, white linens, beautiful music, and the people who love you.

Not snotty little skinny young brides.

AbbeyS2011

I would say you have a definite case of pre-wedding jitters!  It is perfectly normal and understandable - I could not imagine being 9 days away!!!!  You will be beautiful in your weddng gown on your day, and you will blow your FI out of his dress shoes when you walk down the aisle!

ltyka

Thanks for the reassurance everyone.  That's a good point - a wedding dress is much more in place at a wedding!  And especially thank you to AdelphiTN for the snotty skinny bride comment!  It made me laugh out loud!  : )

Sue-n-Kevin

The snotty skinny bride comment is VERY appropriate. Are we older? Hell yea! Do we wear our age? Probably! But as Susan Sarandon said to the team "pass around gal"  in "Bull Durham":

"Honey we all deserve to wear white on our wedding day".

If it makes you feel any better, the young gal doing my hair on my wedding day looks like Scarlett Johansson, but with prettier, whiter teeth and bluer eyes (if that's even possible). As I sat in her chair this week (she is also the regular hairdresser for my daughter and myself) and saw the saggy skin under my chin, I felt terribly old...........until she was done with my hair and I felt "pretty" again.

It's nerves, you'll be lovely, and your new husband will know he made the right choice.

Emmiew

Oh, my dear friend...I can identify....although I haven't gone for my fitting yet, it's next Wednesday.  But that is my fear, too.

Ironically, just for kicks, the other night I tried on my FIRST wedding gown from 1989!!!!  Think Princess Diana...lol.....nothing will compare to that horror, so I'm feelng okay right now!!  Good news was....it fit like a glove!!  So that's something to hold my head up about!! hahaha