My 2nd - his 1st...questions???

ericaandorel

Hi all,
This is my second wedding and his first wedding.  We are actually getting married in Jamaica just the 2 of us in Nov. and having a "reception" in March.  I have a couple questions...

Should we registar?  He has no family except a bother in FL (we are in PA) and i feel like my family gave at the first wedding...and I dont know alot of his friends wives/gf to invite to a shower.

Should there be a shower?  Kind of goes with the above question

Since he has no family should we leave the "reception" to just friends or should i invite my family also.

Last, I want my favors and center pieces to have a date on them...should it be our actual wedding date or the date of the reception?  (ribbon around candles, etc).  I think it should be the wedding date bc I want people to take them home..more like a reminder of our anniversary.

Thanks for any help you can give me!

AbbeyS2011

Hi all,
This is my second wedding and his first wedding.  We are actually getting married in Jamaica just the 2 of us in Nov. and having a "reception" in March.  I have a couple questions...

Should we registar?  He has no family except a bother in FL (we are in PA) and i feel like my family gave at the first wedding...and I dont know alot of his friends wives/gf to invite to a shower.  You do not host a shower.  That is something a family member/friend/member of the BP plans and hosts in your honor.  Unless they specifically want to give you a shower, I would say no.

Should there be a shower?  Kind of goes with the above question  For an elopement - No.  No showers, no pre-wedding parties unless you are inviting them to the wedding ceremony itself.

Since he has no family should we leave the "reception" to just friends or should i invite my family also.  Your reception/open house/wedding celebration party can be open to anyone.  Do not expect gifts, you are celebrating the fact you eloped months before.

Last, I want my favors and center pieces to have a date on them...should it be our actual wedding date or the date of the reception?  (ribbon around candles, etc).  I think it should be the wedding date bc I want people to take them home..more like a reminder of our anniversary.  While the dates are a nice touch, I would nix them.  Why would your guests want a favor with a wedding date on it that they did not attend.  Makes no sense to me.  Make pretty centerpieces, serve good food and drink, and host a nice party. 

Thanks for any help you can give me!

handfast4me

This is pretty much what DH and I did--we got married, just the two of us, in Key West.   It was my second, his first.

Yes, register.  Friends may want to give you gifts, and there will be a list of things you want or need ready for them.  But the PP is correct--you do not host your own shower.  If a friend of yours wants to throw you a shower, than you can accept or decline, but you do not host your own.  

And yes, I agree to about the centerpieces.  It's lovely, and something that's special to you, but think about it.   Would you want a candle with someone else's wedding date on it in your home?  Probably not, unless it was your own parents.    And why would you want them to remember your anniversary?  Just a question here.  I know my sisters and I, as tight as we are, we do not remember one another's anniversaries, and we don't expect one another to do so.