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Registry for Vow Renewal??

cassie45871cassie45871 member
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not sure what to do here...some people have said we should register somewhere simple like walmart...the first go around (5 years ago)...we eloped with the Justice of the peace...nobody came, nobody gave us any gifts...we decided then we would renew our vows with a big ceremony at the 5 year mark. so should we register? we dont know what to do because we dont want to make people feel like thats y we r doing this and we dont want people to feel like a gift is expected because its not....what would u do?...has anyone out there registered for a vow renewal before?
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Re: Registry for Vow Renewal??

  • arv266arv266
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    edited December 2011
    I've been to a few vow renewal ceremonies and none of the bride's registered....My FI and I are planning out wedding (both second timers) and we have not registered.  My feeling is that we have been living together for over two years, and there is nothing that we really need in order to start our lives.  If our guest would like to give us a gift, that is fine, but in no way do we expect it.  I think you send out the message of "I expect to receive gifts" when you register. 

    BTW - Congratulations on hitting the 5 year mark!  Best of luck with the planning!
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  • nmauser82nmauser82 member
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    edited December 2011
    No I don't think you should register. People will probably bring a gift or a card or something on their own. If they ask go ahead and mention something that you might like to have but registering might look kinda grabby.
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  • Armywifey04Armywifey04 member
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    edited December 2011

    I don't think you should register. After 5 years of marriage, you should already have what you need. My husband and I were married just like you and we didn't receive any gifts (not even a card) and we have no pictures. We don't plan on registering.

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  • melissamc2melissamc2 member
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    edited December 2011
    Honestly, as much as people like to dance around it, registry = expecting gifts.  If you really don't expect any gifts, a registry is pointless.

    As others have pointed out, I don't believe in registries for anniversaries.  However, stores now flat out advertise for people to register for everything - right down to birthdays, housewarming parties, and "back to school."   People DO register for everything, but I don't think that makes it right.
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  • Sue-n-KevinSue-n-Kevin member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with what the prior posters said.
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  • cassie45871cassie45871 member
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks for the advice guys!!...I think if someone mentions it I will simply say something like ' we love candels' or 'my kitchen is done in apples' something to where people dont feel required...Thanks again I feel better now knowing your advice =)
    Best of luck to you all =)
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