EX Vent, Again *Sigh*

xobride

Some of you may recall that my FI's divorce isn't quite final.  Well, because we're planning a wedding, she is now convinced that he is making money that he isn't telling anyone about and has basically said that she wants him to support her fully while she goes back to school.

First off, he's a commercial real estate broker and hasn't closed a deal, other than his parents' new restaurant that he had to split the commission with his brother on, since last August.  I wish he was lying about not having any money, but the economy sucks and since she refused to return his tools and subsequently sold them, he couldn't even fall back on construction work.

For some unknown reason, she can't get it into her head that I have money of my own and I have family of my own.  He hasn't paid for anything for the wedding thus far.  It's all been paid by me or by family.  She requested all my wedding receipts in discovery last week and can clearly see that the checks were from my account or my sister's, but she's still convinced he's lying and is telling his entire family that he's lying to them, too.

She claims that since he went to college and got a degree while she worked and raised the kids that he should pay for her to get one, too now.  Well, the kids were grown and gone for the last 10 years of their marriage and she could have easily gone back to school any time then, but didn't.  She seems to think that a degree=money.  Newsflash, it doesn't.  When I was still working in the traditional sense, I made VP at the bank in 2 years without a degree and I was the youngest one to ever do it (24).  He has a degree and isn't making anything right now.

She was the one to leave and move out, but she blames it all on him and now is doing everything in her power to make our lives miserable.  The poor pitiful me thing is getting really old.  I was a single stay-at-home mom of 4 for 4 years (many months without any child support) and managed just fine.  She only has herself to take care of and all she does is whine about how she can't do it.

I just needed to vent.

mdeidre

Hell hath no fury, right?  It's the same with my FI's children's mother.  She cheated on him when they were together, moved her mom in and they both quit their jobs so that he had to support them both and she wonders why he left?  She would get angry any time he dated someone else, but now that we're engaged, she's livid.  And yes, it does come to be about vengence, but there's some power tripping in that too.

xobride

Yeah, it got even worse yesterday with his daughter.  She had it out with her mother because her mother looked through her phone when she wasn't around and read the texts from FI.  Because of her trying to turn the kids against him and her encouraging them to keep the grandkids from him, I have yet to meet any of the grandkids.  His daughter would be ok with it except for the fallout from her brothers and her mother so we're holding off.

They had to move in the middle of the school year and they needed some new school supplies and because she's been in and out of the hospital, they didn't have the money for them so we went to Wally World and got them.  It also happened to be her oldest's birthday that day.  We couldn't avoid me being in the car, but I told FI I wasn't going in because I didn't want her to have to deal with any problems especially since she just got out of the hospital.

Well, the two oldest girls came running out to go across the street to the neighbors and saw me in the car and waved.  I waved back, but that was it.  We were all still worried it might come up that night at the birthday dinner so FI sent a text the next day asking about it.  When his ex read that, she flipped out and assumed I'd met them and they had it out. 

She said she wasn't going to come to Easter at her house because of it.  She then sent a text to her oldest daughter telling her that she loves her and the other grandkids, but that she can't come to Easter because she's not getting along with their mom.  They had it out again over that.  Her defense was that she didn't tell her anything that wasn't true.

Seriously??  Like a child needs to be dragged into her psycho drama.  She's not coming because she believes something that isn't even true and because she chose not to come and then she has to personally tell the only child with a cell phone?  Nothing irks me more than dragging kids through crap like that.  My ex pulled that same crap and I don't think there is anything lower.

MikesAngie

Marrin ~  thanks!!!