so its my second and his first, we both want it just to be us and my kids(and BM and MOH) as we both feel that this is about us and our life together neither of us care about having a cake or first dance or any of the other normal wedding stuff
we also dont have alot of money well any for that matter:( and we are paying for the wedding
Now heres the problem since its his first and he's the first to get married and most likly the only one that will get married
if his family is not there they will be VERY upset
what do we do?