His Second, My first

Lowell14

good morning everyone. I was wondering if after being in the planning stages of your wedding, did anyone effectively cancel the big wedding and elope? Im feeling like that now and Im only planning and researching

FI's family is 25 mins away from the city where we would be getting married and (slightly more importantly) my family is in canada. (Im in Ireland) part of me wants to just go to city hall on a random week day with my FI and spend the money for our wedding on a deposit for a house/new furniture.

I really dont think FI would mind this plan as his first wedding cost 25000 and they are still paying it off even after being separated for 3 years. The only issue i think concerns FI is that he feels he should have a wedding for his mother (im thinking she wont mind as her 2 daughters are married and she was at FI first wedding). I also would like my parents to be there but its a lot of money for them to fly over

after that long post, Am i crazy to just go to the JOP? I'll take pics of our ceremony and take a few pics after but im not too fussed and I dont really want the stress.

boaznruth

I don't think that's crazy at all!  Many brides have very nice JOP weddings or simply go away for a weekend for a easy, stress-free destination wedding.  Not everyone wants the stress, hassle, and cost of a big, traditional wedding.

I think you should do what feels right for you two.  Would you be disappointed later on if you went to the courthouse?  As long as you don't think you will, I'd say go for it and add in touches that make it special for you two.  

xobride

Can you do a combination?  Pay for your parents to come to the courthouse wedding and have his mom there as well?  That would be less than a full-blown wedding, but still allow you to have them there with you.

mdeidre

You're not crazy if it's what you really want.  I think you should speak to your FI about it and decide what you both really want to do.  If you do decide on the JOP, maybe you can do as XO said and just invite the parents.

PS, I think we've all had our moments where we've thought about chucking it all and going downtown.

Lowell14

I'm glad to know I'm not alone in wanting to chuck it all in! : I have gone out to local restaurants to see if they can do better on price which I'm happy to say they can. It also allows me to invite more people for a lower cost per person. Saying that, I'm still not adverse to going to the JOP and being a beach bum for two weeks after with no phones etc :