Second wedding

Tperry1223

So this is not really a second wedding but kinda is. Basically me and my fiancé was engaged previously 2 years ago. My parents full paid for the wedding invasions was sent out and we were 2 months away when it was called off by the both of us. Now after a long road we are engaged again but I don't know if people are gonna come to a wedding that we plan. I want something small and intimate this time. Or should I elope? Someone help me!!

handfast4me

Ok, so take this with the most kind voice you can imagine, because it's so hard to project tone on these boards.  Your message is really difficult to read.  I will give you the benefit of the doubt and hope that you did this on your smart phone.  We really don't use text speak here.  Full sentences and good grammar are greatly appreciated, because it helps us to figure out what you need.

So, I believe, from what I gather, that you're worried because you were engaged to the same man before, but didn't actually get married.  Therefore, this is actually your FIRST wedding.  I think that if I recieved an invitation (not an invasion, that I would NOT appreciate) from a couple who had done some real thinking about their relationship before rushing into it, I would attend and want to celebrate with them.  You may want to ask a few of your close friends, though, to give you a better feel of what others are thinking. 

Tperry1223

Thank you for the feed back. Yes I am using my smart phone and didn't proof read. I don't believe I am text talking at all. Anyways I do agree with what you've said. Thank you

Avion22

The same thing happened to me with my late husbad -- we got engaged, planned a big wedding, then after invitations went out we called it off.  We stayed together and worked on things, and about a year later we "called it back on."  

I felt the same way that you did.  What we chose to do was have a VERY small (immediate family only -- parents, siblings, and grandparents) ceremony then had a meal and cake.   Our other relatives knew of our "re-engagement" but weren't notified of the ceremony until after-the-fact, via wedding announcements.  I don't think people minded not being invited, and we still had a nice intimate ceremony.

Now, as to what is the RIGHT thing to do, there is no answer to that question.  I think you should have the ceremony that YOU TWO want, and invite who you want.  Let them decide if they want to attend or not.  Put the ball in their court.