New to the knot

LauraM18

This will be my second wedding to the same man. We were married January 1, 2011. It was not the big dream wedding I wanted but, his mother was told in December she wouldnt make it another month. (She has terminal cancer and is on home hospice.) Needless to say (Thank goodness) she is still here with us with the diagnossis still terminal could go at any time. We are planning this wedding for October of next year with a fire theme (We are both members of the Volunteer Fire Department in our County) I am 28 weeks pregnant and due in December, another reason for our wedding being next year! I want a formal glitzy wedding and am hoping to get to do things all out this time!

I think that covers the basics for me!

ichellemay1

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[QUOTE]This will be my second wedding to the same man. We were married January 1, 2011. It was not the big dream wedding I wanted but, his mother was told in December she wouldnt make it another month. (She has terminal cancer and is on home hospice.) Needless to say (Thank goodness) she is still here with us with the diagnossis still terminal could go at any time. We are planning this wedding for October of next year with a fire theme (We are both members of the Volunteer Fire Department in our County) I am 28 weeks pregnant and due in December, another reason for our wedding being next year! I want a formal glitzy wedding and am hoping to get to do things all out this time! I think that covers the basics for me!
Posted by LauraM18[/QUOTE]

Welcome!  I think you will find that most people consider what you are doing a vow renewal or a celebration of your wedding - not an actual wedding.  You were already married on Jan. 1st.   As long as people know it is a vow renewal or celebration and not the wedding - it is ok.  Glad that your MIL is still with you.  I am sure that is a tough situation.

MikesAngie

What you are doing is a vow renewal and since it's so close to when you got married it'll be seen by a majority of this board as a do-over.  We're sorry that you didn't get your big fancy day - but on January 1 you did get married. We're also sorry that your MIL has terminal cancer, we glad to hear that she is still with you though. 

This board is typically for those who have lost a spouse either through death or divorce - hence "Second Weddings".   We do support those who are doing vow renewals after a significant period of time or those planning an anniversary party - "do-overs" kind of don't sit well. 

Handfast I can hear all the nasty things that come of this... 

ichellemay1

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[QUOTE]What you are doing is a vow renewal and since it's so close to when you got married it'll be seen by a majority of this board as a do-over.  We're sorry that you didn't get your big fancy day - but on January 1 you did get married. We're also sorry that your MIL has terminal cancer, we glad to hear that she is still with you though.  This board is typically for those who have lost a spouse either through death or divorce - hence "Second Weddings".   We do support those who are doing vow renewals after a significant period of time or those planning an anniversary party - "do-overs" kind of don't sit well. <strong> Handfast I can hear all the nasty things that come of this... 
</strong>Posted by MikesAngie[/QUOTE]

Me too - that's why I tried to "soften the blow"....<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue out" title="Tongue out" />

clp01usa

Congratulations.  I know how life circumstances get in the way of plans. My fiance/New Husband was planning  to retire and start a new career in a year.  Didn't expect the  new employement packet to come so soon.  So our minister married us in August with his parents as witnesses. It's fun having a secret with my new MIL. We'll have our wedding ceremony with friends and family October 8th as planned.  My MIL read me something recently, but the only quote I remember was "may your words always be gentle".    

shytownkelly

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