Are there "vow rules" for a second wedding?

ickletarakins

I think the subject says it all

I want to write our own vows...this is my second wedding, his first. We have actually known each other since high school...just took us nearly ten years to get it right

My question is...are there things you shouldn't say when writing your own vows for a second wedding? Obviously I shouldn't mention my ex, haha, but what about saying something about it taking me too long to see that he was my soulmate or...

I just don't know! The first time, my vows were soooo easy to write...ha, maybe it's a good sign that they're more difficult this time?

NJ Jen

I guess that depends. Do you have any children from your first marriage?

LesPaul

You should go with what feels right for you and your FI, and family.  No - there are no 'rules'. 

2dBride

Well, my ex volunteered to give me away at my second wedding, and we nixed that one.  ;-)  But really, I think the only rule (and this applies to first or encore weddings) is not to make them so long that they bore your guests.

ickletarakins

Oh gosh no, they won't be long! We want our ceremony to max out at 25 minutes. We're not doing a song or unity candles or anything--just a simple vows ceremony.

I do NOT have any kids. Thank God. (I do want them someday, but I'm VERY glad I didn't have them with my ex) Although I was absolutely in love with my ex when I married him, we got married too young and too fast and the person I thought I married was not who he really was, to make a long story short.

handfast4me

If you're talking about the entire ceremony, and not just the section that is the vows, then you will need to check with your state/county/city to make sure what's required.  Some states require the "intent" section.  That's the part in which you both state that you are free from encumberences to marry, and that you're not being coerced to marry.  In other words, you can legally marry (you're of age, and you're not married to someone else) and that you're not being forced to marry.

Otherwise, you need to do what you have to in your particular religion/faith (if any). 

ickletarakins

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[QUOTE]If you're talking about the entire ceremony, and not just the section that is the vows, then you will need to check with your state/county/city to make sure what's required.  Some states require the "intent" section.  That's the part in which you both state that you are free from encumberences to marry, and that you're not being coerced to marry.  In other words, you can legally marry (you're of age, and you're not married to someone else) and that you're not being forced to marry. Otherwise, you need to do what you have to in your particular religion/faith (if any). 
Posted by handfast4me[/QUOTE]

oh, yeah, I know about the intent section...when I said a simple "vows" ceremony I just meant that we would do what we legally have to, plus say some vows we write, and not have the other [cumbersome] stuff

nmauser82

I think the only rule would be not to use the same vows that you used the first time. Other than that, say whatever is in your heart.