Hi - new to this board, but been around here for several years :-)
I am getting married for the second time next month...very excited.
However, I have a 2 and a half year old (NOT from my ex husband - daughter was concieved after divorce, however, her dad and i never had a "relationship" - Long (LONG) story short, He was married, he didnt tell me until AFTER I got pregnant, but I still moved across the country (eastcoast to westcoast) so that he can be in her life - he as a father is an AMAZING father, he just sucks as a human :-)
Back to my question! My Fi and I have been together since my daighter was 6 months old. We are going to Vegas next month for a very small (you could say elopment) wedding between my work sched and his military deployments....I have made the choice to not have her come to vegas for a few reasons -
1. shes too little to understand what is going on
2. I really wont have acess to a "babysitter" to enjoy the time with my new hubby
3. She really wont even remember being in a "wedding"
however, I feel slightly guilty that she is not included as my FI will be her stepfather....Later on next year we will plan a "wedding celebration" in which we plan on doing a "vow renewal" and plan on having her participate.
so, should I feel guilty, or am i making the right choice because of how we and where we are getting married? she will be with her dad while I am gone...
TIA, and I apprecaite any feedback!