Bridal Shower for 2nd marriage

ahenry

Hello all,

I could really use your help.  Any ideas for throwing a bridal shower for a second marriage?  The future bride and groom already have a home and everything they need.  How could I word an invitation suggesting to bring a gift card to a local restaurant or money for the honeymoon?  Any other suggestions?

kimp67

If they really don't need anything (aren't registering) does she really want a shower?  If she does, maybe a lingerie shower?  I think it's really rude (IMO) to ask for gift cards/cash.

debi1941

The very subject has actually come up with me today...

My moms friends and my sister and aunt are throwing me a Lunchen....but just today i rcve a phonecall asking if I would like to have a prsonnal shower instead....

I declined and said thank you very much.....I think a luncheon in my honor was already nice enough and I would rather not rcve gifts.....

I believe showers are reserved for the 1st marriages.....and specific showers can be geared for the more mature bride if all are in favor

I also agree....asking for a specific as in a gift card or honeymoon dollars is a little on the wrong side of the ettiquette scale.....

But if you wanted to do  shower that involved a specific like a "honeymoon"....make it a Honeymoon shower, and all gifts would be for the honeymoon couple...wether it be bath salts for the suite...or brkfst in bed, or a new piece of lingerie for the bride and groom...it could be quite cute actually.....

but asking for money in my opinion, is just not nice.....

jerseydevil

I agree with PPs... Have a lunch or tea in her honor. If people still want to bring something or give her money or GCs, they will.

2012JulyBride

Don't ask for money, gift cards, etc. That has to be the decision of the guest. IF/WHEN they ask, you can always tell them that the couple already has everything needed so no gift is necessary. Honestly, if I were told that, I would bring cash or a gift card or something unless I didn't have the means to do so.
One thing that they might be able to do is register for honeymoon supplies. It may be a short list but if they have registered for something I think people might be more inclined to purchase a gift card. Still, it really depends on the guest.
I don't necessarly think that bridal showers are for first marriages only, although almost everything you read will state that. For my first marriage we eloped and I never had a shower or reception of any kind, from either side of the family. I don't expect anyone to throw me a shower this time but since no one got me anything for my first marriage I don't think they would have a problem attending a shower for this one.
To be "safe" I would throw a brunch, lunch, tea, etc. in honor of her/them.