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Wedding gifts

My future sister in law and I had to convince my future husband to not put on the invitation "no gifts please."

He doesn't look at the gifts as gifts but as ...I don't - know charity??

So there's no registry. My matron of honor is already getting questions about gifts. Being our second marriage, no we don't need a toaster, but we would sure appreciate a gift card to our favorite resturant or a massage during our honeymoon.

How do we "deal" with this?

Re: Wedding gifts

  • Marrin713Marrin713 member
    1000 Comments Third Anniversary 5 Love Its Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    We didn't deal with it at all.  We didn't register; no one asked us if there was a registry.  We just got 99% cards and checks at the reception.
  • Sue-n-KevinSue-n-Kevin member
    Seventh Anniversary 5000 Comments 25 Love Its First Answer
    edited December 2011
    "We didn't deal with it at all.  We didn't register; no one asked us if there was a registry.  We just got 99% cards and checks at the reception. "

    Our plan is exactly as above. It's a celebratory occasion, and people will bring gifts if they want.........we are not even registering for the things we'd probably like to update in our home. Yes, I risk the "chili pepper lamp", but in all honesty, our guest list is small, we know all the people coming, and they all know we have everything we need, in most cases TWICE! If they choose to provide gifts, we know it will be money or checks, which we are setting aside for our 2 week honeymoon which is a couple of weeks after the wedding.

  • fireytigerfireytiger member
    Knottie Warrior 1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    We registered, but to be honest nobody has really asked us where we're registered, so I doubt we'll get many gifts off of it. I have made my stance pretty clear, I don't care about gifts that much, what I care about is that the people we love are there to witness our marriage. :)
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_wedding-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:35Discussion:509b0b72-1ef5-4cf4-a2c2-e0cdef8d0de5Post:8b0644fd-1cf4-45ee-ad1e-1a746f0d8302">Re: Wedding gifts</a>:
    [QUOTE]We registered, but to be honest nobody has really asked us where we're registered, so I doubt we'll get many gifts off of it. I have made my stance pretty clear, I don't care about gifts that much, what I care about is that the people we love are there to witness our marriage. :)
    Posted by fireytiger[/QUOTE]

    This.  We've had a few people ask us as they really want to get us a "physical" gift, and not just a check.  So we registered for those ppl only.  But to be honest, we really don't want anything.  Most of our guests are traveling to the other side of the world for our wedding, so that is a gift in itself.  Good luck.
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  • handfast4mehandfast4me member
    Seventh Anniversary 1000 Comments 5 Love Its
    edited December 2011
    Beware the Chili Pepper lamp!  Register.  Even if some don't even buy gufts off of it, it's helpful to others, and it's a fun exercise for you and FI.   We registered for things at all price points.  Truthfully, we didn't need anything, but there were a few things that needed to be replaced due to wear, and a few things that we wanted that would match our kitchen, etc.  And who doesn't need more sheets and towels? 

    If you don't register, then you'll be likely to get gifts you don't need or want, like one of the brides here who got a chili pepper lamp from someone who visits her home quite often (meaning this monstrosity must be on display), and another who got a boatload of scrapbooking  materials and she doesn't scrapbook. 
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  • AbbeyS2011AbbeyS2011 member
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I registered at 2 places, both small registries, but enough so our guests have an idea of what we want/need.  I am hoping we receive mostly cash and/or gift cards. 

    I would register. 
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  • edited December 2011
    What about doing a honeyfund?

  • fireytigerfireytiger member
    Knottie Warrior 1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_wedding-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:35Discussion:509b0b72-1ef5-4cf4-a2c2-e0cdef8d0de5Post:2f6f014b-634e-45a2-9ec6-7fc7032e9c05">Re: Wedding gifts</a>:
    [QUOTE]I didn't register, and told everyone who asked to just please come. I ended up with a pile of white elephants anyway - aromatherapy baskets, a boxful of scrapbooking supplies I'll never use, picture frames that don't match our decor......
    Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]


    Although i'm certain it's probably in poor taste, I want to ask: can I have your scrapbooking stuff? lol I'm looking to get started in scrapbooking but don't have the funds for it :P
  • mightyoakesmightyoakes member
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Thank you, for sharing. I am hoping this is what happens. We are paying for the whole deal ourselves - I know lots of couples do these days.
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