My husband and I recently did a wedding on the west coast as a destination wedding in wine country with 25 people (immediate family and couple friends). We decided to do a reception back east with our other family and friends (including grandma who missed the "real" one) at my parents home with a tent and band for 150 people. Here we will do a first dance, cake cutting, father/mother dance, etc. Because so many people were upset they were not able to make the first wedding, we decided to do a brief ceremony at the East coast wedding for those who could not be at our first one (for 90 year old grandma especially). I am having serious difficulty trying to decide what to include in the ceremony. What do we call it? Its not really a renewal, more a restating of vows. Also, do we have our flower girl and ring bearers? Do we include our 2 bridesmaids/maid of honor and 1 groomsman/best man? Do we exchange vows? I almost feel silly doing it all over again, but then people who werent at the west coast wedding say they want to see it all again.
How do people typically do this? We did not have a religious ceremony on the west coast and will not on the east coast. We are having a judge perform the ceremony back east. I am just confused on outline of how it will flow.
Thanks.