Children to host wedding...

SheDiva4

Hey ladies, just wanted to get some feedback on a idea.  My FI and
i have 4 children between us.  They are all in the wedding party but my FI's daughter (14) asked if she could host a bridal shower for me.  (too cute)  I don't plan to have a shower but she was really looking forward to having a bigger role. 

We hadn't planned on adding any elements to our ceremony with the children, we are doing things as a family the week before. 

Well my questions is what do you think of our children hosting out wedding.  Their names will be on the invites.

Something like this...

Child 1
Child 2
Child 3
Child 4

request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their parents

Mom
&
Dad

Your thoughts and those with children how are you including them?

right1thistime

I've seen wording like this on invitation samples.  Usually fairly informal.  Obviously they won't actually be hosting, right? 

If it captures the way you feel about the wedding, go for it. 

On a personal note, my kids were bridesmaid & groomsman, and that was it.  I am not a fan of involving the kids in the joining imagery of the wedding.  Maybe because mine were teens at the time, maybe because the blending was less than smooth.  ~Donna

SueR13

I've also seen the kids names on the invites like that at sample sites... but typically the kids are young and are really looking forward to the whole blended family thing.

We have 5 kids between us. My son is giving us away and our 4 daughters are our bridesmaids. We might have a unity candle that we'll have the kids light. Our "kids" are old, though. One is 40, one in 30s, 2 in 20s and one still a teen.

melissamc2

I think it's great if everyone involved is on board with it.  I have four children and I asked my daughter (17) to be a bridesmaid.  She turned me down.  She adores my fiance, and he her, but she explained that she would hate standing up in front of "all those people in a dress and looking stupid like all bridesmaids inevitably do."  Haha!  We all had a nice laugh and I told her that she could never claim that she didn't get the offer!  The boys are younger (13 - he has Autism and other special needs, 11, and 9), but we still asked them what they'd like to do.  "Look like secret agents" was the general concensus, so they are going to wear black suits and black Wayfarers and be in charge of something appropriate at the reception.

I think it's up to each couple as to how they include their children and your idea sounds very appropriate for your new family.  Good luck and congratulations!  Everyone comments on how great it is that we've found men who are good to our children and want to include them, but I also think we Moms did a pretty good job of not finding some jerk that would exclude our children!

SheDiva4

[QUOTE] Everyone comments on how great it is that we've found men who are good to our children and want to include them, but I also think we Moms did a pretty good job of not finding some jerk that would exclude our children! ;)Posted by melissamc2[/QUOTE]

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thealphabride

Hey Shediv!
I know if you google it you will find the exact wording for this type of invite. I was searching wording for second weddings and I saw it. Sorry my menopausal memory is in full force and can't remember the site!!!
It will be lovely.

Mom2SF

I love that idea!!!

FYI--Our 5 kids (ages 7, 10, 18, 19, 21) are our wedding party.  We did not include them on the invites (FI wanted simple, "no frills" wording, no problem).

We are excited about becoming a blended family, the kids are enjoying helping us plan, so including them was an easy, natural decision for us.

Don't overthink anything.  Having your children host the wedding is a lovely idea.

BlueDolphin2620

I actually did do that!  I have a 13 year old daughter and am trying to involve her as much as I possibly can.  My FI doesn't have children so my wording wouldn't work for you, but I think it is a great way to make them feel like it is their wedding as well.  Whenever my daughter talks about it, she says our wedding.  And if your FI daughter wants to host a shower for you, you should let her.  Maybe just something small so it won't be overwhelming for her, but I think it's so sweet that she wants to do that.  It sounds like your blended family will be a very happy one!