Using Miaden name on invites

HisMegs878

OK so my first marriage was very short lived (6 months) and most people didn't even know I was married. However, I did take his last name and never changed it back. So would it be ok to use my maiden name on my invitations?

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melissamc2

Since there ARE some people who know you by your current last name, you might consider doing a hyphenate (as much as I don't normally advocate them!) for invitation purposes to make sure everyone knows who it is for.

Say "Jane Sue Doe-Smith."  (Love my generic name choices?  Haha)

arv266

I think the question has to be, will the people receiving the invitation know who you are if you use your maiden name? 

LesPaul

Will they know it's you?  I did "firstname maidenname oldmarriedname" on our invites.  Now I use "first maiden newmarried" for everything.

mswood1977

I would use the name that people know you by.  I used my ex-husbands last name because I didn't chagne it back to my maiden name and 90% of the people I invited to the wedding never knew me as my maiden name.

pamila51510

I agree use the name people know you by!

Marrin713

I'm doing married name since it's been my last name longer than my maiden name.

adrianzbride

I need to figure this out, too.  My family and some friends do know me by my maiden name as well as my old married name, but some new friends don't know me by my maiden name.  I'll probably go with the Jane Sue Doe Smith... But I'm not sure. 

JenniferC2010

Wow I was totally wondering the same thing recently (but since I have a long while before I need to worry about it, I didn't get past wondering). I may have to hyphenate for the simple reason that most of my extended family didn't acknowledge my previous marriage even though I kept his name after the divorce. Hmm.

Amomtomanyluvs

i would use what people know you as, i used my old married name....just because i have been using that as my last name since 2001 and i never changed it back to my maiden name for the purpose of time and expense lol. some people do assume i went back to my maiden name, but they would still know me as my old married name...so its what i used. 

Ken&Cass

I never changed back to my maiden after my divorce.
I am in the process of changing it back now, primarily because I don't want my ex's last name on my new marriage certificate.
I haven't finished changing mine back yet, but all my invites went out with my maiden last name.

Rawr08

I went through the same thing.  I first chose to go with the ex's name, but after thinking about it more and more I changed EVERYTHING to my maiden name.  I figured if anyone didn't know it was me, they would know my FI's name and figure it out.  This way only the ex's name is on the legal documents.  Totally kicking myself for not getting on the ball earlier to change back to my maiden name.  Good luck with your decision!

luckyme502

Since you never changed it back, I would do the name you go by.  I don't think it matters that it was a name from a previous marriage. 

thealphabride

I would agree to go by the name people know you by. I've had the ex's name for 15 years however I have many good friends that still refer to me by my maiden name.

I am using my first, maiden, last (which is my ex's last name)
 
I have decided to change my name to my new husband's as soon as I possibly can after the wedding. I'd change it now if I could.

My son is now a teen so he is fine with me changing my name.

When I separated my son was 2 so I wanted to keep it the same for his school years.

mzkynd

i have been meaning , and by  meaning i mean for years (procrastinate much? ) to change back to my maiden name, and i have to admit it does kinda skeev me out to have my ex's name on my marriage certificate , but noone knows my maiden name, so i worry that it will be too much of a hassle and too confusing to everyone..

summerlilly2008

I'm using my maiden name. I use it whenever possible, except on financial and medical stuff. I think everyone who is getting an invitation knows my maiden name, however I'm only sending out like 30 invitations so it's all close friends and family.

cvriends

What my honey and I did was not put last names on the Invite. We made our first names bolder and worded our invites as Charlotte & Jackson along with their children invite.... The invites look great. That is how everyone knows us, as a couple. We only used our last names on the return address on the envelope. It was modern and stylish. Best wishes to you both!