"adult" children

pennylp

My daughter is 19 and I am planning on having her take a small part in our very short ceremony and a toast at the reception. FI does not have any children.

Does anyone else have an older child?
What are you having them do in the ceremony if anything?
Are you getting them a gift? What kind?

all thougts and comments are appreciated.

arv266

Together, my FI and I have 4 children.  He has a 22 year old daugter, and a 20 year old  son.  I have a 12 year old daughter and a 10 year old son.  His son will be his best man, his daughter a bridesmaid, my daughter the maid of honor, and my son will walk down the aisle with me.  We've all gotten along very well and wanted to include them all in our wedding.   Our wedding is still 83 days away, but we have not thought of any gifts for them.  I think it will be age appropiate -- like a new video game for my son, and a Sephoria makeup kit for my FDIL.  We want to get them something that they will enjoy, as opposed to a keepsake gift.

LesPaul

At the time of our wedding, my daughters were 16 and 18, and DH's daughter was 16 and his son was 19.  The girls were my bridesmaids, and DH's son was a goomsman, along with DH's best friend and my brother.  My younger daughter played the processional on her violin.  My older daughter signed the marriage certificate as a witness.  I got the girls a pair of (fake) diamond stud earrings.  They also got the dress and shoes (that they chose).  We didn't ask them to do any readings, toasts, or anything other than stand with us at the ceremony.  It worked well for us - low key, and everyone was comfortable with their role.

Lisa50

My son, now 17 and a senior in high school, will be my best man.  The wedding is slated for one month after his graduation; at that time he will be 18.

Gift??  Hmm ... isn't being the son of a fabulous mom enough?!  LOL!  Good question, Penny.  Beyond the tuxedo or custom suit we will buy for him, I have not thought of what to give him.  That may be it.  He's SUCH a clothes hog, he'd love that!!

I hope this helps.

2dBride

My 25-year=old daughter was our maid of honor, and my 27-year-old son was "dude of honor."  We got each of them a Swiss army knife.  They were both thrilled, and the only problem was getting my son to stop playing with his at the reception.  ;-)

Sue-n-Kevin

My 16 yr old daughter will be my maid of honor. My 23 yr old son will be a groomsman. His 18 yr old daughter will be a bridesmaid. His 30 yr old daugher (who's kids are flower girl and ring bearer, so I figure that's enough for her!) will have a reading at the ceremony.

As for gifts, I'm thinking some sort of personalized jewelry personally chosen to fit their personalities.

Sloane99

I think a BM is a great idea for someone that age, or maybe walk you down the aisle? Up to you guys - does she have a preference?

As for gifts, I'd aim for something meaningful, like jewellry or something along those lines, along with something fun that she would like right now.

right1thistime

My DD was 16, and DS was 14 @ the time of our wedding.  They were bridesmaid and groomsman  (not MOH & BM).  She got jewelry, he got a gift cert for skateboarding equipment. 

Treat them like the very special loved ones that they are.  ~Donna

MikesAngie

My future step-daughter will be 6 days away from 18 when we get married.  She and my FMIL will be escorting my FI on the day of the wedding.  Her gift is one of my birthstone rings plated in rhodium and sized to fit her right hand. It was her choice.

dwashco

My sons age 23, 21, and18 walked me 1/3 of the way down the aisle oldest to youngest.  I gave them each a 4 gig flash drive which was inscribed with "For my father walks my darling son" as had my father not died the year before I would have had him walk me down the aisle (it would have been the only time he would have done it....)

AbbeyS2011

I have 2 sons, they will be 11 and 7, and FI has a daughter who will be 21 when we get married.  She will be a BM, my older son a Jr. GM, and the younger is the RB. 

I have no idea about gifts yet - I am thinking of giving daughter a nice ring, and probably a game for each of the boys - they are really into PS3 lately!

prusgirl

My daughter was my MOH.  She was 19.  As for gift(s)...considering I bought everything she wore wasn't that enough? LOL

Because I was a single parent since she was a toddler it has just been the TWO of us. So I gave her a picture with JUST THE TWO OF US and I wrote her a special card.  She cried and cried because she understood, she wasn't giving me away.  She was sharing me.

She gave a toast -- a little long but, everyone loved it. 

thealphabride

My son is 14 and walking me down the isle and his son is 17 and the best man. These boys are the only groomsmen. They are both preparing speeches, with the help of my sister.

My FI wanted them both to speak at the wedding. We will not speak, and the only other speech is from one of my sisters, the MOH. and Welcome from my other sister. All very short.

My son is thrilled to be in the wedding and he's excited like at Christmas time.
He told me last night to tell my fiance he loves him, so sweet.

It's been he and I for the last 12 years as well so I feel you on that.

Christine710

We are also including our children in the ceremony. His 2 sons are his best men and my 3 boys are going to walk me down the aisle. They are all "adults" between 23-17.

Erin McCormack

My oldest son (23) will walk me down the aisle and wasn't too thrilled about it (mainly doesn't want to be the center of attention).  The other two boy's  ( 20 & 17 )really don't want to be in it just to go.
My daughter (10) and FI's daughter (11) will be our jr. BMs and they are thrilled.
Were also having my FSIL as one of the BM, my cousin is my MOH and a friend will be my 3rd BM.  FI's brother in law will be his best man and two of his friends are the groomsmen.
My biggest delema is what to dance to with my son.   All of he songs are geared to the son being the groom.  Any suggestions?