Old rings

ndmorgan1

We are thinking about selling our old wedding rings (this will be both of our second marrage) and use the money from the sell towards our wedding or the new rings. I wasn't sure if that was in bad taste, or even bad luck.  I would love some advice on this topic.

Thanks in advance.

mfeo24

I can't speak to the luck factor, but we did just trade both of our old ones for FI's band. I had a horrible time selling mine. Unless yours are really nice and you get lucky, they may not be worth as much as you think they are. Good luck though

Avion22

I'm widdowed, so I would never in a million years sell my old wedding ring.  However, assuming you're divorced, I don't really see a problem with it.   However, used jewelry doesn't exactly hold much of a resale value.   About all you'd get is the cost of the weight of the metal.  Depending on what kind of rings you want to get, this might cover the cost (it will certainly cover part of the cost).

As for whether or not it's in bad taste....well....I guess that's something only you can answer.  If either of you have any contnuing contact with your exes (assuming you're divorced), or have kids from your previous marriages, then I think it's a little weird.....almost like pretending that part of your life didn't happen, or didn't have any positive outcomes.   But whether or not your old wedding rings have any emotional significance is something that only the two of you can answer.

ndmorgan1

Jus to add some info: I am divorced and there are not children in common with my Ex.

right1thistime

No issue with selling.  I gave mine to my DD,

annie912

I sold mine shortly after my divorce, and when FI were looking for my e-ring I really wish that I had kept it to trade in on the new ring (so does FI . I would have done what you are talking about without hesitation. I had no issues selling the ring. Not that my divorce was particularly nasty, but I didn't see a reason to hang onto the ring that symbolized something that no longer existed.

I would obviously feel different if my marriage had ended due to death, or I might feel different if there were children involved.

I don't think getting rid of a ring makes it "like it never happened" and I still do have my wedding pictures - in a box, in a far corner of the basement.

2dBride

I got into a really bad place financially, and decided to sell my engagement ring from my first marriage.  When I told my son, he asked if he could buy it.  He pointed out that although to me, the ring was a reminder of a failed relationship, to him it was a reminder of the relationship that produced him.  I couldn't afford to just give it to him at that point, but I did sell it to him for the price that an auction house had agreed to pay for it (which was far less than it would have cost him to buy a similar ring).  And he has now incorporated the stones into his wife's engagement ring.

handfast4me

I gave mine to my DD.  She uses the engagement ring on occasion.  I have no idea what she did with the wedding band.  That marriage, like some of the previous posters, produced her, so it seemed natural to give them to her. 

+Jessie+

I used mine to trade in for my new engagement ring (the only way I was going to get even close to what it was worth!) But I put the same amount of money I received for trading it in into a savings account for my DS (from first marriage).  

minionlover

It is completely up to you on what to do with them.  Do you think that it is bad luck?  FWIW FI & I sold the rings from our first marriages and used it for a trip to Jamaica.

PhoneCardLady

I would see about getting the rings appraised first.  It could be a bargaining chip.

ashbur12

as soon as my divorce was finalized i drove straight from the courthouse to the pawn shop and sold the darn things.  only got 50 bucks for the set but then again my ex was a cheap SOB.  that 50 bucks put groceries in my fridge for a couple weeks (he took my money when he left and i was unemployed at the time) so it was good riddance for me. 

i say sell 'em and forget about 'em. the marriage is over and you've moved on to better, happier things.  enjoy what you have.

jwdds2013

I sold mine and used it on vacation spending money! Best money ever wasted! People tried to give me ideas and said to not sell it (it was a beautiful stone), but it meant nothing but negative memories. I couldnt even imagine having it lying across my chest on a chain that close to my heart. I had more fun how I used it, and never forget those memories had with it!

ndmorgan1

Thanks for all the advice.  We sold them and used the cash as a down payment on the engagement ring.