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Sue-n-Kevin

Oooh, I hate the word "wrong". Maybe over-reacted a bit?

It's not easy marrying someone who has "baggage". I know this.

Just relax, remember he is marrying YOU, his prior marriage ended for a variety of reasons I'm sure, and don't let the small stuff get you down. One of my life's philosophies, before I pop my mouth off is this: "Is this going to matter when I'm on my death bed?". I overlook a LOT because of the "death bed" theory. I use it with my kids when they whine, I use it on myself when I feel a really small issue bothering me.

Good luck.

geordieboysgirl

You reacted. It happens, Calling the first marriage a mistake is unfortunate. Were the kids a mistake? I have a child from my first marriage and I can tell you that he was no mistake and by extension, the marriage wasn't either. For that comment, I think you owe your fiance an apology.

luckyme502

I am the one in our relationship with the "baggage" and yes my first marriage was a mistake.  The beautiful daughter I have is not, but the marriage was.  I shouldn't have married him. period.  I don't think you owe him an apology for say that it was.  I think you do owe him one for accusing him of pinning for his ex though. 

NJ Jen

Deleted OPs are always such a let-down...

deepcovejackie

Why delete?  The posters on this thread were supportive!