Gifts and regestry????

vickie226

Trying to deside what to do

fireytiger

There is no "proper manner" to asking your guests for money. It's crude. If you don't want to register for gifts, nobody will force you to. But you can't ask guests to give you cash. If they want to give you money then they can choose to all on their own, or they may give you a gift which you should graciously accept (and then do what you will with).

rapunnzzll

It is not "proper" in any way to mention gifts of any sort in any way on invitations.  Gifts should not be ab expectation.  If someone wants to bestow a gift to you and don't know what to give, they will ask someone and then it can be mentioned. 

mybooboos

Congratulations on your engagement, and welcome to the boards!!  This board can offer some great advise in insight when you're planning another wedding.

I believe that money trees are a cultural and/or regional wedding tradition.  I've not encountered one, but I believe I hear more about them down south. So fair warning, you may run into some strong feelings about them on some of the different boards out there.

 That being said, as the previous posters mentioned, with your invitations, there is no mention of gifts, whether cash or via a gift registry.  If you opt to do a money tree, you may want to note this on your wedding website, under the Registry page.  Although, as a recommendation, it may be wise to still register for some items, as some people may feel more comfortable making a purchase, instead of giving cash.

Happy planing! 

Sarahkayfa

I really don't think it's proper to do a registry for a 2nd wedding and it's never proper to ask for a gift. If your guests want to bring you a gift or bestow a gift on you, that's wonderful (and they probably will) but it's not okay to ask. 

AbbeyS2011

I am getting married for the 2nd time on June 18th, and we registered for gifts. We wanted to upgrade some household items and add a few things as well.  

I have heard from too many people who did not register at all end up with "white elephants" or things they do not need nor wanted to begin with.  If our guests want to give cash or a GC, they obviously have that option. I do not need to point that out to them. 

I want our friends and family to attend our wedding and reception afterwards.  Period.  Whether or not they come bearing a gift does not matter to me. 

Lisa50

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[QUOTE]I am getting married for the 2nd time on June 18th, and we registered for gifts. We wanted to upgrade some household items and add a few things as well.   <strong>I have heard from too many people who did not register at all end up with "white elephants" or things they do not need nor wanted to begin with.  </strong>If our guests want to give cash or a GC, they obviously have that option. I do not need to point that out to them.  I want our friends and family to attend our wedding and reception afterwards.  Period.  Whether or not they come bearing a gift does not matter to me. 
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