What was crazy/weird/dumb about your first wedding?

AdelphiTN

I think mine would be fashion... i had some lovely poofy sleeves. Oh and my poor bridesmaids had GIANT bows on their asses. I should call them all now and apologize.

oh yes and i passed out during pictures - had forgotten to eat all day. duh.

Erin McCormack

Same here, I had the big poofy sleeves, totally not what I would really have gone for, but, it was the trend in the mid 80's and for the dumbest hands down that would have to be MY X    Could have done without him.

Marrin713

I was first married in 1979 - no poofy sleeves tho but a low cut gown which drew frowns of disapproval from the maiden aunt contingent.

Reception was a clusterf*ck of alcoholics (me being one of the them at the time - I am now 24 years sober!!!!), so much of the festivities are a blur.  But we did manage to have a knock down drag 'em out with the wedding in the next banquet hall.  My father-in-law paid for one extra hour of bar and my dad paid for one extra hour of the band.  The wedding next door had no more music and no more open bar so they felt justified to just come on over and help themselves.  Not all the reception attendees, just the last few who didn't know when it was time to leave.

Oh just remembered - when reception started, best man's girlfriend flounced out in a loud, outrageous snit and then tried to come back in later and had to be escorted from the premises.

I guess I remember a little more than what I thought.

Amomtomanyluvs

hhmm my first wedding what was dumb was going out for my bacherelette party the night before. i was sick all day...couldnt eat or drink etc. i was sick up until i said i do and i still couldnt enjoy my dinner until later...ugh./

other then that my wedding was pretty beautiful and everything besides my ex husband was awsome.

cwcottage

Time travel...back to 1982 lol Princess Diana dress...poofy of course (from JC Penney lol). Homemade veil, MH dress and flower girls dresses (by me!), silver tuxes, FAKE flowers made by me, absolutely no decor, reception at MIL house, cold cuts and crackers, no honeymoon other then overnight to the Oregon caves in the middle of winter! No stress, I had no idea what a wedding was at 20! The morning of my wedding my Mom says to me (after I'm totally dressed and ready to get married)  "should I run down to the store and get some dye to tone down your hair?" OMG lol What a day!

Rawr08

My first was only 4 1/2 years ago, my dress was awesome.  That was the only good thing.  I called it a "planned elopement" to Vegas, only 6 people besides us were there, I only talk to 3 of them still.  Good riddance! 


Anyone know a good website to try to sell my old dress?  I figured it may not be a good idea to have 2 in the closet!

arv266

My first was 20 years ago and I loved my dress.  I havent seen the photos in years but I am pretty sure I would still like it.  Huge wedding - we had 8 groomsmen but no female attendants... I thought having 8 women in the sam dress would look silly.... This time around - 4 bridesmaids and two flower girls!  The more the merrier!

M&Mf4me

HORRIBLE 80's Poofy sleeves.  Our Man of Honor almost passed out because he locked his knees.  He also practically threw the rings into a clay plate and they must have clincked around FOREVER it felt like.  At the reception the military honor guard tried to throw my x into a pool in NOVEMBER, at which point I was screaming at them to stop it.  DRUNK, and a forgettable Pee Wee Herman dance. . .

OH, horrible memories. . .   I don't remember enjoying the wedding at all.
Shell

lopsie01

Lots of bows and poofy sleeves.  My bridesmaids complained that their dresses were terribly uncomfortable and my flowers were a flop !  By the time we got to the reception, they had all drooped as the sun had been shining into the venue the entire afternoon.  Other than that it was a great party.  I had great in-laws too, pity their son didn't work out so great ! ha ha ha good riddance

robinmichael

Well at my first wedding my monster in law looks at me as the wedding is starting saying she forgot her dress shoes 25 minutes across town and was leaving to get them. I calmly explained she would miss the ceremony. Needless to say she didn't leave. Her sandals were fine. At my second my groom shoved my face into the grooms cake. This time barefoot and NO CAKE!!! lol

nmauser82

It was 98 degrees in July for an outdoor ceremony. A stupid first dance song that I gave into because we could not agree on anything (should have been a sign). Fake flowers that I made myself, although they did look nice, I wish I had gone with real. Instead of getting ready at home or renting the room above the venu, we get dressed in the bathroom of the venu. So there I was sitting in my poofy dress getting my hair curled with random guests walking in to use the facilities. Speaking of the venu, they failed to tell the cleaning staff that we would be arriving early to get ready so we sat outside for an hour till we flagged someone down. Choosing my stepsister that I had met all of 3 times prior (and only a handfull of times since) as a bridesmaid, to even out the sides. My stepmother wore black.

But other than that it was actually really great. The food was good and the party was fun. The pictures were awesome and all in all it was a good day.

AdelphiTN

sounds like we've all learned a lot since then, eh? lol.

adrianzbride

We got married in Hawaii, a planned elopement with no guests (came home to reception) and the minister forgot that we had customized the vows.  He did his standard vows, and there was no way I could interrupt and get him to start over (although I wish I had done that)... It was awful.  The vows were the most important part, and he ruined that for me.  I wish I hadn't tipped him anyway.  Also the bouquet was different than i requested.  It was a beautiful setting at sunset on the beach, though, and the photographer was good.  In the end I was sad my mom wasn't there with me, so I'm glad this time around I'll have all my friends and loved ones there.  We will definitely review the vows, and I will have exactly the bouquet I want.   Most of all, I will have a good man who loves me and is good to me.

BlueDolphin2620

My first wedding had absolutely none of my personality in it.  Everytime I would make a decision about something, my MIL and SIL would say no you can't do that, you have to do this...My mom had married my stepdad just 2 years earlier and when she bought her dress she bought it with the intention of me wearing it also knowing that I would probably marry soon.  Big poofy dress with lots of lace and a big bow on the butt.  I did have the bow taken off and a lacy thing put on the back but still the dress was way too over the top for me.  At the time, I didn't really think about it.  It was a way to save money.  As soon as I entered the reception, my SIL came running over to tell me that we needed to cut the cake right now becuase it was getting ready to fall over.  Oh, and the unity candle ceremony was a flop.  Our moms lit the side candle, then proceded to light the middle candle.  They were very nervous.  Then as we pretended to light the middle candle during the ceremony, the ex dropped his candle.  Thank god it didn't start a fire!  It was a crazy day, but the party ended up being fun and everyone had a good time.

MikesAngie

My first wedding (20 years ago) - total thing DUMB.

• Dress my MOH picked it
• Flowers were fresh Gerbera Daiseys because they were inexpensive
• Hair was done at a salon
• Make-up in the limo
• XH was drunk before the ceremony (did it count?)
• MIL was the Best Man
• Didn't walk down the aisle because it wasn't set-up correctly
• XH insulted me afterward
• I paid for it all my parents hated the XH and refused to fund it

There were more things wrong about the union and the day but really it's done and thank goodness it's over!!! It lasted 7 months (facial reconstruction with his fist is what ended it) took me until 19 months (needed cash and place to go - did it on my own) to leave the divorce was final at 23 months.  I learned a lot about my strengths and myself with that terrible lesson - and I have not repeated the lesson since.

Marrin713

Oh (((Angie)))

thealphabride

Let's see...dumb?  was marrying the douche bag in the first place.
Wierd?.... Actually thinking the marriage would work.
Crazy? Thinking I was doing the right thing because I was pregnant and marrying him to give our child his name and actually thinking it would work.

 We married in the courthouse and none of my family would come. That should
have been my first clue.

Getting ready in my bathroom... burst out crying because getting ready to get married alone wasn't the way it was supposed to be. He was out. 

He showed up a few minutes later with a beautiful white bridal bouquet for me, and the actual day wasn't bad.

We got married in the courthouse, went out for lunch with my 2 closest girlfriends(who came to the ceremony) and then went to Chicago and stayed in the Marriott for the night had a nice dinner out. The girls even acted as my photographer and I got some nice photos. I saved the album for my son.

tonyscutieest09

Also, only half of our RSVP'd guests showed because a hurricane was supposed to hit that following week and everyone had cleared out by 9 and had to pay for 3 hours of DJ that we didn't even use. The cake was no where near what I wanted and a drunk bridesmaid caught her boquet on fire.

 Turned out later that my ex was so drunk he didn't even remember the wedding. Which is part of why he is my now Ex. LOL

MandyLovesMarc

LOL...I like this.

Dumb- marrying my high school sweetheart, and ignoring all the clues that were slapping my in the face.

Crazy- letting him talk me out of a photographer, so we'd have more $$$ for alcohol.

Weird- his dad wore a Western embroidered rose shirt that you buy at a truck stop for like $80, because he wouldn't rent a $100 tux.

JennaHR

The groom. lol

dubmomwifey

Let's see...
I was 17 and still in school. My mom had told me I would get married bc my lil sisters would not know I got preggo b4 I got married. A wk b4 the wedding she changed her mind but it was go through with it or have it held above my head the rest of my life. But now for the major offness...
1. Wore my mom's wedding dress from when she married my father (circa 1987)
2. I was trying to figure out where my maternal grandfather was (he didn't show bc my birth father was there who I had not seen since I was 5 didn't know this til later)
3. The minister told my x to "fear God and his fathers-in-law" (my dad and stepdad)
4. The minister asked him if he would "forsake all others and his X-Box"
5. We almost missed our own reception bc my maternal grandmother kept insisting more photos be taken, and I was about to pass out from heat & low blood pressure so we have video footage of me throwing a lil fit lol
6. Since we were marrying in a Nazarene church there was no dancing, so while he huffed and puffed about them decorating his truck and was cleaning it, I had a grand time sitting in the middle of the floor blowing bubbles for my sisters and their friends (he is obsessive over cars and has even moved about 6 hours away from our children to go to the NASCAR technical institute)
So yup thats the most of it! Oh yeah and all my flower arrangements were wrong!

JenniferC2010

First was a planned elopement to Vegas and I didn't listen to anyone when they said my ex was a bum. Now I agree completely! So, I'd say I was dumb for not listening to my friends and family.